We've got a chap looking at sorting out our (grade II, very dilapidated) windows. I was watching the news, but when dh brought him in and introduced me, I switched it off and said hi, expecting them to sit down and we'd talk scary costs etc. DH then offered him a cuppa which he accepted. DH then said he'd have one too, ascertained how the man took tea, and then took him off to see more windows (we have lots), adding over his shoulder "my cup's over there..."
So I made tea. Then I waited while they looked at more windows. That's what he's there for; but actually dh had been showing off his guitars, and then they stood just outside the kitchen and talked about music. For 15 minutes. While I waited for dh to bring the guy in so we could all talk about the windows. After 10 minutes, I called out "tea's in here", dh said great, but made no move to come in and carried on talking music while the guy stood on the stairs.
They finally came in but dh was still standing around so the guy didn't sit either. I began to feel I had no part in this at all, except to provide drinks, so I said "well, I have things to get on with" to which dh jovially said "great" again, and I left the room.
Getting the windows done properly is a massive job and will cost thousands. I felt completely sidelined and dismissed. If the guy hadn't been there, I'd have chucked the tea away. In fact, I don't know why I didn't.
I know I'm being ur.
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