It feels like DH and I have very different expectations and it is starting to make me pretty cross.
We are expecting DS1 in October. A few examples to see if I am being nuts.
He is very excited about baby. He bought a doppler, without consulting me, as apparently it is a present for me. If he had asked I would have said no, as I don't want one. However he timed buying me said present so he could take it with us to his parents for the weekend. As it happens it arrived late, so he couldnt take it. But I really would not have wanted to sit there with my tummy out for his family to sit around and listen to the baby. To avoid a drip feed, we have had 2 miscarriages, so are both very anxious about baby. I am also having a lot of anxiety at MW appointments etc, so do not welcome the reminder, but DH has not been able to come to any appointments apart from 12 and 20 week scans due to work.
My family have come to decorate the nursery for us. DH wont let me help as he is worried there might be a risk to baby from paint exposure etc. However DH is so ungrateful to my parents for their help, they have given up annual leave from work to do it for us, and driven 2 hours each way to do it. DH left lots of his things in the room, for them to work around. It just doesn't sit right with me, and I have ended up defending DH to DParents, and DParents to DH.
I think he is suffering with a lot of anxiety at the moment, but won't go and see his therapist, who I don't think a lot of anyway, even though he has sessions already paid for.
Baby is here soon and I just want him to step up a bit and try and see things from my perspective. Am i expecting too much?
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Not a LTB, but am I being unreasonable
AlbusPercival · 25/07/2016 10:44
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