My DP is self employed and works 7 days a week. He often leaves at 7:30am and the last few weeks hasn't been getting home until after 7pm.
We have a DS (5). My issue is whilst he does work so hard, I do everything else in between, I work full time, leave the house at 8am and get home about 6pm. I do the school run and pick up everyday, I do all the washing, ironing, cleaning and cooking. In December we moved to a larger property and trying to keep it clean and tidy is like a moving beast, I can't keep up! In the time we have been here, he has not cleaned a bathroom toilet, vacuumed, put a load of washing on NOTHING! On a Sunday, he wants a lie in, like today for example he is still in bed whilst I have been downstairs with DS since 8am. He likes to relax on a Sunday, which usually involves him sitting on the sofa all day. Unless I ask him to do something specifically.
As the morning goes on and on I feel myself getting more and more resentful by the time he emerges I generally just feel peeved off and annoyed. This morning I have been up tidied the kitchen, done a load of washing, hung it out, made breakfast and vacuumed the lounge. I have asked him for more help around the house but I occasionally get 'does anything need doing?'.I feel like saying just look around and use your brain, why do i have to issue instruction? If you see dirty dishes, wash them!
Any advice? AIBU? I appreciate he works hard - but so do I.
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summerblonde · 24/07/2016 11:40
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