DH and I have been together for 10 years, married 5. We have a 2.5 yr old DD and 4mo DS.
If I'm really honest, our marriage has been slowly dying since DD's arrival. I think that I have been so wrapped up in her (and subsequently DS) that I don't really have room in my heart for DH any more - but I so want to.
I want to have at least some of the feelings I used to have about him and I don't know if there's a way to get them back.
He's an incredible Dad and a very patient and loving husband. I love him most when I watch him with the kids - but it's almost a brotherly love.
Sex - we have very little. My sex drive is non existent when I'm not ovulating (breastfeeding) and DS was conceived as soon as my periods returned after DD.
We don't have any family nearby so we rarely get time together as a couple, but even when we do, I feel quite distant from him and just want to get back to the kids. I love spending time as a family all together so it's not that I don't want to spend time with him full stop.
We've talked about the situation a lot and he's willing to do whatever it takes to improve things, so I feel like I really need to step up or it's just going to fizzle out.
Has anyone else been in a similar situation and have any words of advice?
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thescruffiestgiantintown · 24/07/2016 08:36
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