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Missing him

(8 Posts)
Firestone16 Sat 23-Jul-16 07:49:08

Hi all
To cut a long story short or I'd be here all day. I'm really missing who I believe is my soulmate. We have known each other 6 years we dated briefly 6 years ago not long after we met but there is a issue there's a massive age difference I am in my 20s and he told me he was 45 we stayed friends as it wasn't going to work as anything else as people would not accept the age thing, anyway we stayed very good friends and both dated others. By the way we both have children his are grown up two my age and two older. Anyway he has always been there for me even helping out with a place for me and my children to live when things went bad with my bf. But anyway last year I found out he lied to me for years and was actually in his 50s I was hurt and eventually I forgave him and we remained in contact. We slept together now and then but it wasn't a relationship just friends who slept together . He has always said he loves me and tells me this whenever we have a chat about how great it'd be if we were ever together. Anyway now we have hardly spoke in the last 7 months just a text now and then even though I've tried to contact him he's not replying much. He lied to me about 7 months ago about his gfs name I know not a biggy but it seems he lies quite a lot. He was married years ago and had a affair so was divorced a long time when we met. He was a it strange last year and I seen him waiting in my local road ( he knows which way I go school run on foot) he is from. Different town so I know it was because he was a bit stalky he then admitted this and said he wouldn't do it again. The last week I can't stop thinking of all the good times we had together I really miss him. He said he's no longer with his gf who is either called Clair or Jane. Very odd I know

Lovelifeandsomuchmore Sat 23-Jul-16 08:07:14

You haven't lost your soul mate sweetheart.
You are hung on a guy that made you feel good and helped you out a bit
You don't owe him anything either.
One thing I do know is you are young and single
God Dam it! Embrace it.. I know you have children but you also have your whole life a head of you! Of I was you I would absolutely grab hold of that with two hands.
Find babysitters once in a while.
Tell their dad to help out! Get out there.. Date around.. Go on holiday, persue your career. Find yourself first and one day someone will hit you and you'll realise what love really is!
That's my advice Go for it! Forget him!

SandyY2K Sat 23-Jul-16 08:08:44

Do you have a question? Or you just wanted to share this with us.

Firestone16 Sat 23-Jul-16 08:16:46

Sorry I don't really, I just wanted to get it off my chest and obviously no one knows how I feel and I've been feeling a it down the last week or so missing him. Rather than a question I guess I was looking for opinions on whether anyone thinks it can work with this man or whether I should try and delete him out my life for good .

abbsismyhero Sat 23-Jul-16 08:20:49

Delete its hard but I'm going through something similar (although I'm much older) I think when your sad you latch on to people who make you happy but might not be what's best for you at the time

Joysmum Sat 23-Jul-16 08:21:51

I don't think it could ever work with a man who always thinks he has good reason to lie and has a girlfriend and is keeping his distance.

ElspethFlashman Sat 23-Jul-16 08:36:40

How can it work?

He has little or no interest. He's barely said hello in 7 months. He's not that into you And he certainly hasn't wanted to ever be in a relationship with you. You had a few dates half a dozen years ago and since then you've been his very occasional fuck buddy.

Please wake up dear. If this is your "soulmate" then the universe has a very twisted sense of humour.

SandyY2K Sat 23-Jul-16 11:43:16

He tells too many lies for my liking. So it wouldn't work for me. Apart from that he's not interested, as he doesn't respond. But take that as a positive and move on.

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