Me and h have been separated a year now. I won't go into too much detail but I took the children and left after discussing options. He wanted to stay in the family home and not move so I basically I had little option but to leave.(with nothing and started again) He is still there. We are a couple of hours away.
I've let him come and see the children whenever he wants and I take them there every 2/3 weekends. I have to stay there as he can't cope he says with all of them. (2,4,6) I end up being involved in everything and basically look after them when they are there. I don't like this situation but he has rarely spent much time with them and not been hand on at all so I don't feel 100 per cent leaving them either overnight tbh.
Every thing is still on his terms. Sometimes he says he's too tired to come or has cancelled once I've told the children ect.
Anyway, he texted me this week saying he wanted to see the children on Friday (not if it was ok with me or if I had plans) I said that was fine. Heard nothing and presumed he'd be here as he usually is fairly early.
I waited until 9.30 am as hadn't heard anything and texted, no reply, then I tried to call twice. At about 2pm I presumed he wasn't coming and so popped out with the kids to get some lunch.
I then got a text message saying 'wasted journey then'. I replied saying I'd be right back and that I'd been trying to call. I called again several times and no answer.
I got back home and an hour or so later he texted saying he'd see the kids in their 'proper home' 'I'll see them whenever you think they should spend time in their own home'.
This month has been a difficult time as I was referred to a cancer unit to have biopsy for which I am waiting for the results which is just a bit more stressful than usual.
What should I have done?
I don't understand as sometimes he seems absolutely fine and others he just turns again. Like before, I feel like he likes to build me up and kick me when I'm down.
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Am I in the wrong?
inarmsofanangel · 22/07/2016 19:11
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