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Yes he's still a cunt, should have listened to AF

(25 Posts)
justyg1970 Thu 21-Jul-16 12:50:19

Went back to cheating partner (hate that term but after 18 years and two DD thats all I get to call him) absolutely no bones about going back for the kids, they are two years away from leaving home , I will NOT upheave them under no circumstances. BUT I thought twatface might meet me half way after all I had forgiven his blatent cruelty when he told me as I lay in complete shock oh I'm going to a hotel with her, I won't be in contact.
Okay now I have woken up, yes I have frustrated my good friends as well as AF , I know !!!
But the fabulous absolutely. Fucking brilliant news is I no longer care I no longer give a flying fuck if he lives or dies , I'm not sure what has happened to me but I am so glad I don't feel so now I am free xxx

Drbint Thu 21-Jul-16 13:26:31

now I am free

And can you say this of your children, living with you and a man you walked out on and still think is a cunt?

Floggingmolly Thu 21-Jul-16 13:29:58

Bit confused. You went back to him and he then left you, or you're refusing to cause your children upheaval by leaving (but you left once already? confused and are planning to stay while he treats you like shit?

MatildaTheCat Thu 21-Jul-16 13:33:10

Why do you feel so strongly that your DC won't cope with the change? Also, 2 years from leaving? Are you sure? Many young adult DC stay well into their twenties or, at the least, come and go.

They might be much happier to have a happy mum.

Roygrace Thu 21-Jul-16 13:35:54

Who is AF? Aunt fanny?!

cosmicglittergirl Thu 21-Jul-16 13:37:34

I'd guess it's Any Fucker.

gamerchick Thu 21-Jul-16 13:39:07

He left you after you went back or he's just carrying on now he knows you're not going anywhere?

Seriously ditch him, your kids will cope better than you think.

scampimom Thu 21-Jul-16 13:53:50

I know it's a rant but whut?

stopfuckingshoutingatme Thu 21-Jul-16 13:53:57

why do you even care what AF think| surely you have bigger fish to fry confused

but LOL at Aunt Fanny grin

SemiNormal Thu 21-Jul-16 13:57:41

I don't quite understand your post but I guess great news on being free (or feeling free? which isn't quite the same thing).

Gazelda Thu 21-Jul-16 14:00:58

You may be emotionally free, but not practically. I hate to piss on your chips, but I think you need to reconsider NOT leaving him. What will happen if the DC don't leave home in 2 years? What will happen if he decides that HE wants a divorce and you are forced to separate. If I were you, I'd be taking some control of your situation.

Floggingmolly Thu 21-Jul-16 14:18:10

How old is two years away from leaving home? 16? 18?
And you'd let them watch you taking this shit rather than "upset" them by leaving? Sad...

Isetan Thu 21-Jul-16 20:28:30

Two years of living with parents who can't stand each other, now there's an atmosphere to look forward to. There's a very good chance that the high your currently experiencing, will be short lived because 'you not giving a shit', could be the catalyst for him being even more of a shit.

HermioneWeasley Thu 21-Jul-16 21:03:57

MN should sell "AF was right" and "always listen to AF" t shirts

EveryoneElsesMumSaidYes Thu 21-Jul-16 21:11:12

Maybe a bracelet with "WWAFD" (What would Any Fucker Do)

She's a wise wise woman

justyg1970 Wed 27-Jul-16 22:19:27

Yes ,a bracelet with WWAF do, then all the LTB and her blood thirsty followers will feel happy

PigletWasPoohsFriend Wed 27-Jul-16 22:23:28

That makes no sense hmm

NorksAreMessy Wed 27-Jul-16 22:24:36


amysmummy12345 Wed 27-Jul-16 22:28:45

I saw a reg plate with LTB on today.... Made me think of mumsnet... totally irrelevant

justyg1970 Wed 27-Jul-16 22:29:46

Gosh,, I so wish I hadn't posted what I was feeling , Mums net is like being back at school the bullying , cliquee mentality, snide comments,gosh so many snide comments thanks all of you who went put if your way to make sure I feel worse.

Dozer Wed 27-Jul-16 22:33:25

if moving back in with the tosser isn't going well for you and your RL friends agree with MNetters, why not just LTB?

The DC might well not thank you for staying with a tosser "for their sake".

ImperialBlether Wed 27-Jul-16 22:34:49

So you think we are bloodthirsty for telling you to leave him, yet you want to leave him and wish you'd left earlier? Is that correct?

MadameCholetsDirtySecret Wed 27-Jul-16 22:35:17

I wish I had mumsnet and AF a few years ago. OP good luck.

AvaCrowder Wed 27-Jul-16 22:35:27

I'm sorry but I'm not clear. Did you leave the bastard or are you living with him, but sort of dead inside?

If you don't care then leave, if you did leave then good for you.

Wolfiefan Wed 27-Jul-16 22:37:14

Perhaps re read your OP. It doesn't make sense. Have you left him with the kids? Who is at the hotel? You went back to him but you're free?! How old are the kids?

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