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Should I stay away from the bad lad

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user1468698069 Wed 20-Jul-16 18:37:13

I've been on my own for years to be a mum, I didn't trust my judgement with blokes after my divorce. I've walked away from a bad lad, he'd shout at shop assistants, waitresses but could be nice to me. There were loads of warning bells including negging big time. I'm not a kid far from it I have a 19 year old son and could hear warning bells clanging off all over the show. He'd make racist comments knowing I have a multiracial mix in my family.Knowing it would make me angry and that I'd challenge those awful views. I realise I can't change people only how I respond. So why do I feel lonely? I did post before but the feeling to pick up the phone to him is still there yet I know I'd end up in a relationship where I couldn't agree on the most important things. He wanted me depending on him, I could see it, I couldn't agree with his views I left. I guess I just need to hear other people say stay away and trust my instincts.

aladinsane Wed 20-Jul-16 23:49:30

Stay away he sounds like a potential abuser.

SpongeBobJudgeyPants Wed 20-Jul-16 23:55:22

Stay away, be strong. Being on your own is better than this as a relationship, but you know this. flowers

FlattenedWhite Thu 21-Jul-16 00:08:17

Stay away, User. Quite apart from the fact that he sounds like a racist abusive pillock, if you have an adult son, you're way too grown up to fall for that 'bad lad' thing that might be slightly more excusable when you're sixteen and he's the boy who is cheeky to the maths teacher. Shouting at waitresses and (presumably female?) shop assistants isn't being a 'bad lad', it's being an aggressive, unsocialised waste of space who's showing you what he really thinks of women whose bed he's not trying to get into.

neolara Thu 21-Jul-16 00:16:08

Er,.... yes. Why anyone over the age of 16 would want to spend time with an arse like that is beyond me. You know he'll be horrible to you.

BadLad Thu 21-Jul-16 03:52:33


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