Hi I really need a kick to make me see sense and there's a part of me that's starting to become concerned I have obsessive tendencies.
My ex finished with me last year after a short relationship, I was upset and it took me a long time to move on. Then 10 months later he asked for another chance, promised all sorts, we met each others children said he loved me and then finished with me again, all in the space of 8 weeks.
I was determined not to let myself brood on it this time, but when I saw his new online profile in May I just saw red and sent him a vile email saying horrible things (tight, only knew one sex position and many other ridiculous things) and calling him out on persuading me to go back out with him, but unsure of his address I just thought he wouldn't receive it. Never heard anything back and felt very ashamed and relieved that he probably never got it.
Then on Wednesday I messaged him on match (I know how much does it take for me to get that its over) asking him how he was and if he would like to be friends. He replied that he was very surprised to hear from me again considering my last message he got from me!!! and that he didn't have any bad feelings towards me but wasn't sure about being friends given our past history.
I wanted to curl up and die I kept remembering all the things I had said all night and apologised saying I couldn't undo it and it was written in anger and that obviously friendship was out. He replied saying he hadn't meant to hurt me and wished me well, I said I wouldn't bother him again.
The shame of it, the question is do you think I have stalker abusive tendencies? I used to think I was a nice person until I did this. I truly didn't think he would get the email I was guessing at the address but that doesn't excuse it.
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Am I behaving like an abusive stalker?
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Paddington72 · 18/07/2016 14:43
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