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'I hope you die'

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Lottielou7 Sun 17-Jul-16 21:53:02

I've been involved with a guy, on and off for about 2 years. He's a manipulative, abusive bastard. I was infatuated with him. Finally I have in the last few months felt that I have lost any feelings for him but he keeps on contacting me still. So I sent him a message telling him I never want to see him again and he's treated me like crap by standing me up and giving me chlamydia as well as lying that he loves me. I feel so much better telling him to F off. His response was 'I hope you die'

Should I be worried that this is a threat or just forget all about it?

MyDarlingWhatIfYouFly Sun 17-Jul-16 21:55:55

Sounds like a charmer. Well done for cutting loose - a vile message like that should make it easier to move on.

As to whether it's a threat, I suppose it could be read that way, but only you know what he is capable of. Was he ever physically abusive?

OneAppleADay Sun 17-Jul-16 21:57:10

I don't think it is a threat. Forget it.
But I he try to contact you again in an aggressive way, contact the police.

OneAppleADay Sun 17-Jul-16 21:57:40

But if he tries*

Lottielou7 Sun 17-Jul-16 21:59:26

He used to spit down my throat during sex so yes potentially abusive. I think he may be a psychopath as everyone in his life eventually cuts him off (male and female)

Lottielou7 Sun 17-Jul-16 22:13:30

I think that maybe he is just not used to me standing up to him.

cozietoesie Sun 17-Jul-16 22:38:31

No. I don't think it's a threat. It's too passive for that. (For once - he spat down your throat? shock)

You know him best though.

CalleighDoodle Sun 17-Jul-16 22:47:15

Thats grim.

did you ever report the abuse?

It doesnt sound like a threat but ffs block him on everything.

holdontoyourbutts Sun 17-Jul-16 23:04:51

Whilst it's awful it's not a threat. All you can do is block and under no circumstances respond.

I recently had to log stuff with the police after my nc ex starting sending me threatening and abusive messages. They told me to log everything and never reply.

For now I'd forget and block every single contact method.

Lottielou7 Sun 17-Jul-16 23:05:42

Stupidly I didn't - he had me under his control. But I've blocked him
Now yes

amarmai Mon 18-Jul-16 00:01:30

As you know more than we do, on the basis of the little you have told us , why take a chance with a man like this. REport him.

Lottielou7 Mon 18-Jul-16 00:30:17

If I reported him would the police be able to do anything though?

AnyFucker Mon 18-Jul-16 00:34:48

That doesn't sound like a threat, it sounds like something a petulant 7yo would say

Treat it it with the contempt it deserves and do not ever communicate with him again

Block and ignore. And stick to it.

AnyFucker Mon 18-Jul-16 00:35:50

Oh and why the fuck did you carry on sleeping with someone who spat down your throat ?

I suggest the Freedom Programme.

Lottielou7 Mon 18-Jul-16 00:46:22

I've been on the waiting list for the freedom programme for 18 months.

I've decided to stay single for some time, take a step back and not date for at least a year.

Lottielou7 Mon 18-Jul-16 00:50:47

God know AF . But at least I no longer feel anything for him

AnyFucker Mon 18-Jul-16 07:36:20

Thank Christ for that x

Lottielou7 Mon 18-Jul-16 11:57:02

I'm so afraid to say anything mean to someone that I (almost) feel bad. But he deserved to hear it and I think it will keep him away from me.

AnyFucker Mon 18-Jul-16 12:53:54

I think you should utilise the "Fuck off" form of communication a tad more, tbh

amarmai Mon 18-Jul-16 12:54:42

As mn always says it's when you break up they cd v
Become more dangerous, so yes report to the police and if he says or does anything further They will take it more seriously as they have already been informed of the first threat. WTFAF?

Lottielou7 Mon 18-Jul-16 13:22:04

We didn't break up, I haven't seen him in ages but every now and then he starts up manipulative one sided bombardment of texts to make me weaken. I figured if I was nasty to him he might just decide to forget me. I didn't really expect him to say 'I hope you die' though.

AnyFucker Mon 18-Jul-16 13:25:53

You need to stop joining in with the game playing

If he makes contact again ignore

And mean it

pocketsaviour Mon 18-Jul-16 13:27:04

I was expecting this to be something your teenager said when I opened the thread.

He has continued contacting you because you've let him get to you. If you now put him on block, he will stop getting his narcissistic supply from you and hopefully leave you alone.

Police won't be interested I'm afraid unless there's a specific threat, which honestly this doesn't sounds like.

Lottielou7 Mon 18-Jul-16 13:41:48

Oh gosh no I don't think it's a real threat. I think at night things seem worse and I've seen him suddenly turn nasty in the past.

coco1810 Mon 18-Jul-16 18:40:49

Screen shot the message and keep it safe. If he contacts you again go to the police. Well done for LTB.

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