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What next. Just told 'H' to go

(15 Posts)
Glitterypompom Sun 17-Jul-16 19:51:11

All I want to say for now is that he is a lying cunt. Anyway what the fuck do I do now? We live in private rented, 2dc, one starting high school in September. What if we have to leave our home? Ive had a glass of wine and been crying for an hour. Oh and name changed obviously. Trying to get dc2 to sleep. Just bitten off dcs head for asking for food. Do I just try to carry on? God, not making much sense. I will put my big girl pants on and be back soon

HandyWoman Sun 17-Jul-16 20:10:30

Could not read and run, OP. Text a good friend. Get the dc into bed. Then lean on friends. Do you think he got the message? Are you worried for your safety?

All the practicalities will get sorted one by one. You'll be ok but right now you need RL support and more wine once the kids are in bed

Glitterypompom Sun 17-Jul-16 20:16:00

Thanks for replying. I'm just so upset. I can't imagine life without him but hate him right now. There just so much at stake and other people who will be devastatedisplayed, not just me and dcs. Think little one has dropped off at last, now to deal with dc1. I'm scared to tell anyone in rl at the moment because that makes it real. Got such have a busy week to get through, no doubt I will plaster on my 'I'm fab face' and just get on with it as usual. Thanks for replying, don't feel so alone now.

elephantoverthehill Sun 17-Jul-16 20:18:51

It's frightening OP, but it sounds like you did what you needed to do. Can you ring your Mum/sister/friend. They will always step up to the mark and give you support IME. flowers

justpeachy74 Sun 17-Jul-16 20:25:24

I'm sorry to hear you're going through this OP. Where is oh now? Has he gone? What do you think your next step should be?
I agree with pp to contact someone you can talk things over with. flowers

Funko Sun 17-Jul-16 20:30:48

Sorry op but if he is a lying cunt then it's probably for the best!

Understand how you feel BUT perhaps you should tell someone and MAKE it real. That way you are less likely to minimise/hide it/take him back.

Glitterypompom Sun 17-Jul-16 20:34:51

Thanks. And Funko, I am minimising, I really am, have been for ages. Oh bugger. What a fuck up. Right cuddle with dc1 then more wine..

Glitterypompom Sun 17-Jul-16 20:37:13

I would normally chat to MIL. She's a treasure, even when it involves her son being a dick. She's got too much on right now though, so I can't burden her with it. Might chat to a friend in morning, think I might get too upset if I try now, to be honest I'm exhausted!

Viviennemary Sun 17-Jul-16 20:38:35

I don't know of course what has happened but I suggest you take a step back and don't make any decisions right away unless you are 100% absolutely sure you want to split up. You've told him to go and fair enough you should have a breathing space to decide how you want your future to go. Hope things work out.

Puff42 Sun 17-Jul-16 20:42:40

I'm sorry, whatever it was, it sounds bad. Enjoy your wine and maybe go to bed early if you're too tired to discuss with anyone. But call a friend or someone tomorrow. I like what Funko said about it actually being a good idea to make it real. So sorry again.

Joysmum Sun 17-Jul-16 20:46:51

If a good friend of yours was feeling like you are, would you be annoyed if they 'burdened' you with their worries?

Talk to someone in real life x

Neome Sun 17-Jul-16 21:12:25

When things went tits up for me I found Samaritans really good at being real but not part of my 'real life' IYSWIM. Just a thought, good luckflowers

Glitterypompom Mon 18-Jul-16 16:51:20

So, just spoken to him and it's all my fault! I made him lie. I made him do what he did. I'm fucked up apparently. What a dick. I've told him if that's how he feels then fine, best he fucks off then. Didn't go down to we'll. I'm going out later and he is looking after dcs. I'm betting he won't be here at the agreed time so I can't this is my life now? Spent the day crying then being angry then crying etc

Funko Mon 18-Jul-16 20:41:28

Of course it's your fault. That's the script 😄
Do hope you got to go out for a bit tonight flowers

Woodman2007 Mon 18-Jul-16 21:20:22

Glad it's not just me being told how it's my fault that he did the things he did! Men seem to be very good at passing the blame rather than admit their mistakes. I find when they are like that it gets me so angry which is a good thing rather than feeling sad and sorry for myself!

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