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Anyone else so frustrated with H they just need to scream???

(16 Posts)
Hotwaterbottle1 Sat 16-Jul-16 23:04:33

Aaaaaaarrrrggghhh..... That's better!

Demanmodnar Sat 16-Jul-16 23:05:43

Not H but GF.

Grrrrrrr Arrrrrggh..

pinkyredrose Sat 16-Jul-16 23:06:09

Why's he so frustrating, is he some kind of cunt or something?

DailyMailAreMassiveCunts Sat 16-Jul-16 23:13:06

I'll join you


What has yours done?

Hotwaterbottle1 Sat 16-Jul-16 23:20:48

Burying head in sand over us splitting up. He has been sleeping in separate room. Niece staying tonight & I asked where was she sleeping? He said spare room, so I said where are you sleeping then? Our room he says? I just looked at him and said Emm no. He said sarcastically well then whatever YOU want then. We have had this conversation over & over.

Effendi Sat 16-Jul-16 23:22:59

Yes, I flew to UK today for a week.
Didn't offer to run me to the airport, pulled his face when I asked if he could give me 20EUR for diesel and when I said bye bye he just grunted. Not even texted to see if I got here OK. Im not texting him.

DailyMailAreMassiveCunts Sat 16-Jul-16 23:24:09

Oh god, that sounds painful. I imagine it dredges things up for you each time you have to explain. How long are you stuck in this situation for?

DailyMailAreMassiveCunts Sat 16-Jul-16 23:26:10

That grunting thing is so under-the-skin irritating. I feel your pain.

Demanmodnar Sat 16-Jul-16 23:27:01

Fwiw mine is dismissing my concerns about where we live. Neighbours are basically scum, alcoholics, druggies etc. 3am last night I was on the phone to the police as a gang were having a punch up 10 foot from my 3year old daughters bedroom whilst another group were busy destroying their garden and setting fire to wood in a barrel.

I want to get my DD away, my gf says its not that bad.
I feel trapped, depressed, anxious and filled with a growing feeling of despair...
"Its not that bad"

DailyMailAreMassiveCunts Sat 16-Jul-16 23:29:27

Mine has fucked our lives up massively by making a bad choice. And instead of being on his best behaviour (everyone keeps saying 'oh my god, he's got so much making up to you to do!'), he appears to be on his worst behaviour instead.

<primal screams>

Hotwaterbottle1 Sat 16-Jul-16 23:32:56

Nope don't text him Effendi. Grunting is so rude!
Deman - have lived beside neighbours from hell, had to sell up after 22 months, it destroys you I understand.
Daily mail - not sure, possibly into next year. He just won't accept it and I'm so worn down with it.

Hotwaterbottle1 Sat 16-Jul-16 23:33:43

Daily mail primal screaming sounds awesome

Effendi Sat 16-Jul-16 23:34:48

Fuck that, I'm not texting. There will be words when I get back.

DailyMailAreMassiveCunts Sat 16-Jul-16 23:38:09

Next year is a long, long way away. I'm sure you've thought of every single alternative and i'm not going to patronise you by suggesting ways you could make it clearer because I imagine you've done them all. I take it that it was your choice to split? He sounds like he's in denial. Maybe he thinks it will work itself out before you (or he) can move out.

Are you getting along generally or is it very tension-y?

Hotwaterbottle1 Sat 16-Jul-16 23:43:29

I've thought of every alternative yes, done my sums, spoke to an independent financial advisor and its best for both of us (esp him) if we stick it out for now.

He has been in denial for years hence getting to this stage. He is not just burying his bead but his whole self in the sand.

Yes my decision.

Getting on generally with odd bouts of tension, no arguing. Same as last 20 years to be honest.

Mamatallica Sat 16-Jul-16 23:45:44

I strongly identify with this thread, mine is driving me mad, just drying my tears, reading random stuff on mumsnet to distract myself and hoping he goes to sleep (in the spare room) so I can go and clean my teeth without him hearing me and starting the argument again. I'm eight months pregnant, I don't need this.

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