Hello
Looking for some wise advice on how to deal with this issue....
Background: me and XH are divorced and have been apart for 3 years, 3 DD's. I divorced him for EA. He has recently remarried and has step children and a toddler with his new wife.
My children have told me before that he asks them to call his wife 'mum' and they have said they don't like it, but feel they have to do as he asks so as not to upset him (by-product of our abusive marriage I guess, along with him being their dad). My youngest has recently referred to them as mum and dad when she has spent time with them and I have tried to gently ask if that's what she wants to call her and she just says she has to and is told to (she's 4).
Anyway long story sorry, he's just called them as he's been away and spoke on speaker saying 'me and mum have been to xxx' They kind of froze so I said you mean 'her name.' He told me to wind my neck in. They continued talking and finished. After the call he text me to say they chose to call her that and he respects that they refer to my DP as their other dad. I replied, not very calmly, stating that I knew that wasn't true, and also said I don't encourage them to call DP dad as he isn't.
I've since checked my DDs kindles as I regularly do, and there is an email sent after the text exchange, written from his wife, signed off 'love mum and dad'.
I want to email back (calmly this time!) explaining that I monitor their messages and that I do not feel she should, or they should, continue like this. And say if she can't, I'll block their emails until they can be more respectful. For balance, when DD's are with XH I have no way of contacting them at all as he won't allow phone or text or email contact.
Thank you for any help!
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