Brief outline...We went out when we were teenagers, first love (love of my life really) then went our separate ways. I worked abroad he had a successful career here. WE didn't split up for any other reason than our lives were taking us in different directions. IN recent years his marriage broke down (she had an affair) and my dh passed away suddenly. After that, we met up again and we rekindled our relationship and it was magical. Like coming home. However it was way too soon for me and I put a halt on it as I was still recovering from the loss of my dh and the readjustments I had to make for our two children who I was now raising alone. Funny thing is though, we still have this 'thing' between us. It is like fireworks. We are both in other relationships now but this feeling won't go away. He recently said that he has this life feeling that we should be together and I totally get that. But....we are both scared of hurting our respective partners and fucking things up totally and ending up without one another in each others lives for good. We went out this week and spoke about it but I am wondering whether we are each other's 'safe place' like a safety net if things go tits up in our relationships - as if we can always just rely on the fact that we are attracted to one another kind of thing. My partner is a lovely caring generous and decent man...but something is missing for me.
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Is it ever a good idea to rekindle an old relationship?
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StirredNotShaken · 13/07/2016 20:53
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