Hi all,
Wasn't really sure where to post this but couldn't think where else to put it! Just looking for some advice really, nothing is really a problem at the moment but just wondering if this is the norm.
My partner has a DD who is 6 years old. He and his ex have been separated for many years and they have always had an agreement for him to pay her maintenance directly. It is more than the recommended CSA but it is not logged officially, he pays her directly at handovers etc in cash as well as travel expenses and extras when needed.
She is considered as having full residency however partner has DD eow and school holidays. As this is my first experience of this (aside from my father who managed to dodge maintenance for my entire life!), I am just wondering is it normal and acceptable for parents to have this arrangement between themselves?
I can't see anything wrong with it whilst they are amicable, but whenever anything comes up which causes tension she can turn nasty quickly and I worry on his behalf as there is no paper trail or physical evidence of him ever paying anything for his child iyswim. I tend to be the meticulous type that worries about these things whereas DP is care free and doesn't think that matters. So whilst it's great that they can work between themselves when things are ok, I worry if anything were to ever get worse between them as it does at times.
What arrangements do you have between yourselves, is it all through CSA or do you have informal agreements?
Are they doing anything wrong legally by not disclosing her overnight stays with dad?
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Renotry · 10/07/2016 23:27
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