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Tinder Temptresses Unite....It's Dating Thread 106

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PrizeyPrize Sun 10-Jul-16 15:24:35

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread.
11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will.
12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now)
13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good.
14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

PrizeyPrize Sun 10-Jul-16 15:32:07

Date was good, nice guy, gorgeous eyes, but didn't excite me fuck me he was boring, he acted very cool and laid back, I like a man to be a bit more eager and enthusiastic. Went in for the kiss twice at goodbye and got a peck on the cheek. confused
Didn't do it for me at all. Shame...

He also should not of had what I'm guessing was a whole bulb of raw garlic for dinner last night confused

Whatam1doing Sun 10-Jul-16 16:21:58

Just checking in will go back and read last few pages of old thread. Things crap here planeman done the go quiet thing, gutted. ..don't need that just now .

PrizeyPrize Sun 10-Jul-16 16:29:00

Nooooooo! what!! Why do they do this???
Hope you are ok flowerschocolate

ThePigeon314 Sun 10-Jul-16 17:04:43

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RosettaPebble Sun 10-Jul-16 17:38:40

Checking in too.

Oh no what not Planeman he was the one I had the most hope for.

starskey80 Sun 10-Jul-16 18:06:07

Oh no. So sorry to hear about planeman.... Any chance he's giving you space at this time??

NowWhat1983 Sun 10-Jul-16 18:39:29

Oh shit. Remind me who planeman was whatam.

As a side note can you call people with What in their user name more than just What as I am thick and I get easily confused!!

NowWhat1983 Sun 10-Jul-16 18:41:37

Look at the delight I got. sad

PrizeyPrize Sun 10-Jul-16 18:45:07

nowwhat you should have byefiliped that one. Funny how he's saying that now.....when he was pestering you to fuck he didn't think you were ugly and fat then did he?? It's called sour grapes. What a prick.

NowWhat1983 Sun 10-Jul-16 18:50:12

I still can byefelipe it.

He is a fat, ugly git tbh. But looks arent everything and I kept an open mind when I matched him. Christ if only he knew. Now wonder he cant get any.

I rose above it, told him to look long and hard in the mirror at his own appearance and his behaviour and if he messaged me again I'd report him to the police.

His phone number linked to his facebook, I know where the stupid cunt lives and his full name and I have his number.

if you're going to harrass someone: make bloody sure they cannot trace you.

merville Sun 10-Jul-16 18:52:10

nowwhat that's standard operating procedure for many guys if you've rejected them in any way ... it phenomenal how many examples I've seen of this online. Even saw one from the other side from a guy looking for advice on a male-dominated forum I visit .. he sounded like he was on the autistic spectrum and was genuinely wondering if he had still an in since she's replied (to point out that she'd been pretty til she turned him down).
I suppose the only good thing abut them is that you can see what calibre of person he really is v quickly & can exclude him from all consideration, unlike a stealth b*st*rd (!) Don' ever take it personally.

NowWhat1983 Sun 10-Jul-16 18:58:05

I must have been lucky then and I use the term sardonically, as this is only the second time Ive had abuse for rejecting someone.

merville Sun 10-Jul-16 19:05:05

Thankfully I encountered it v rarely when I was OLDing as well, but there are entire websites and youtube vids dedicated to females' experiences of this.
Just goes to prove that some men truly never grow up emotionally; they're in some kind of (nasty) 5 yr old boy stasis.

singleandfabulous Sun 10-Jul-16 19:05:48

Yay! New thread. Although I'm not sure why Im excited having read about the last few fuckers you lot have dated. What IS wrong with them? They act like they're twelve!

whatam1doing such a shame planeman has gone quiet.

Starskey80 <aplauds dtd> if he's a great guy, he wont care when you dtd.

nowwhat1983 you have my sympathies. what a bunch of fucking arseholes they sound. It's as if they feel entitled to sex & when you dont deliver, ghey throw a strop. Jesus.

Well its a week now since i saw Audidriver and although he's in touch and says he wants to see me soon, he's making no effort to make it happen. So disappointing. I still dont get the 'staying in and trxting me' instead of just coming over. Why fgs!

PrizeyPrize Sun 10-Jul-16 19:09:48

In that case Nowwhat I'd name and shame and stick it on byefilipe.....then send him the hash tag so he knows. What a wanker. As merville says, it's an all too common occurrence, unfortunately. My llast one was 'you are old, have kids and you are a midget' which was quite odd given that I was only 4 years older than him, and I'm 5.4'' and he was 5.10''....still puzzles me!

I've just sent the thanks but no thanks text to Mr Sunday.....hate having to send those, especially when they are not cocks. Just said I thought he was great company but didn't think we had a connection sad

Hope my title isn't deemed sexist.....I think we are all Temptresses on here however Tinder Tempters of the male persuasion also very welcome, obviously. grin

NowWhat1983 Sun 10-Jul-16 19:12:16

If i post it to byefilipe do I have to put it on my own instagram feed?

PrizeyPrize Sun 10-Jul-16 19:15:19

It says to DM your submissions nowwhat

starskey80 Sun 10-Jul-16 19:16:44

singleandfabulous it was great :-)
And he's been in constant touch with talks of me going to his town. Good bit away.
Only fly in the ointment is his ex wants him back, they have a child, and has gone loopy since hearing he's seeing someone.

But the fact he's telling friends he's 'seeing' me is good isn't it??
I'm trying hard not to invest....I really am. But fuck it's hard when they're so nice.

merville Sun 10-Jul-16 19:26:23

Prize A midget?! That's a new one (& you an inch taller than the avg UK height for a woman, for shame!). These are actually funny (though it's hard to see the funny side when it's directed at yourself).
Old and have kids - well if you were 'old' and didn't have kids, sure wouldn't you be a 'dried up spinster lonely old maid cat lady'.

Pigeon314 Sun 10-Jul-16 19:29:05

Absolutely Merville, the kids stand in the way of dating, but they're also what prevents you from being categorised as a dried up lonely spinster cat keeper. Double-edged sword!

Pigeon314 Sun 10-Jul-16 19:30:52

1983 what a dickhead. Hope you're ok. Obviously it's bollix from a bitter old bastard but it's not nice to receive it.

SkyRabbit Sun 10-Jul-16 19:32:57

Definitely Bye Felipe that!

Well, my guy has replied eventually 24 hours after I said shall we meet again hmm.
He hasn't really answered my question, but has - get this - told me that another woman off Tinder that he's arranging to meet , saw us yesterday at the book shop and what were the odds? (Given that it was neither of our towns). Is it me or is it a bit weird to tell me that????

NowWhat1983 Sun 10-Jul-16 19:33:54

Not really OK as I had a fabulous weekend with Mr Surgeon who has gone quiet and I dont know what I did.

Then this arsehole this weekend. I submitted it by DM to ByeFelipe

Pigeon314 Sun 10-Jul-16 19:34:48

I'm five foot two. FIve foot four is a lovely height. Midget my ass.
text back something like ''yes, I'm fat and ugly and a midget and here I am turning you down"

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