H has been manipulating me, subtly controlling and sexually coersing me for years. I've been lurking here for a long time and posted under various names but I wasn't ready to accept it. Accept that what was happening was abusive. In the last few weeks I've been honest with my eldest bro, now bro no. 3 knows the ins and outs and he's livid.
Tonight H apologised completely out of the blue for years of hounding me, forcing me to have sex against my will and touching me in my sleep. Apparently he's only just dawned on him how wrong it is. And wanted it all out in the open in the hope that we could address it and strengthen our marriage.
He's promising the earth because he's only just realised what he stands to lose. I've been keeping this dirty secret for too long to the detriment of my mental health and he's finally admitted to himself that it's wrong. I don't have the energy to carry on, but I feel like I have to give him one last chance to sort his shit out. I just want this to be over quickly. I want to move away and have a fresh start with our girls. He's pleaded for a second chance. Wants us to get councelling and go to relate together. He's still minimising it all, calls it everything else but what it is. Sexual Assault.
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BlackGirlAndRobin · 09/07/2016 04:36
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