Bit of back story I am 36 with 4 month old DS and 4 year old DD. Moved into my foster home when I was 11 no contact with blood family. Foster family have two girls boy who are now 21,27,31. They have all but adopted me I moved out when 25 paid for my wedding been there with children etc. My brothers sisters are that except for blood. However last year or so I have felt disjointed and not sure if it's me them or both. My mum used to own a nursery and provided childcare for my dd however she retired and we fell out as I didn't agree or she didn't agree with my parenting methods. We made up but it's not been right since. My DSIS has 2 children 6 and 4 and although I say I have always been treated the same there are differences . My DSIS is a nurse and her DH are fairly well of albeit a lot due to credit and hefty mortgage. My mum provides all childcare although she has offered with mine I work part time and have managed to sort mine out. My parents came into some money and have house abroad so divide their time. One if the reasons I don't rely on childcare is that they are away a lot so it can be unreliable and hard to find alternatives although my sister has money for clubs etc. I had my DS prematurely 5 weeks and he was in scbu for 3 weeks I was made to feel like I should keep going stuff upper lip etc! He's home but has a few problems reflux and cmpi it's hard work but no real support. I think family think I am making it up! My DSIS has followed everything I have done got married 6 months after me, moved 2 months after me children) I had a miscarriage. She's now pregnant due Christmas, was conceived whilst son in scbu. I always feel like she doesn't like attention on anyone esle. I am looking at going back to work my dd starts school in September . Parents said that they would be around to help in holidays next year with both sets grandchildren. However now DSIS will be on mat leave they are going abroad for whole summer. - thanks! Myself and DH are the odd ones out occasions as we don't live beyond our means or to keep up appearances. However I find myself being distanced through my choice and also because I don't follow suit in family. It's my younger DSIS hen weekend I am going for one night not two due to money and leaving my young son. Comments have been made about it and if I mention it I get told its normal have a break etc! I feel very down about my son being in scbu and premature but again no one mentions it and focus is now on new grandchild arriving. I know I sound jealous but situation is beginning to get to me and I don't know how to approach it. Sorry for length
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