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What the hell is wrong with him??? I just need to rant

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lostandsoscared Thu 07-Jul-16 20:08:14

Long back story, in a nutshell - EXP left my son and me almost 5 months ago. It was a dreadful split under traumatic (to only me it seems) circumstances. I've gone into lots of detail about it all on other threads so wont bore you all with it now....

Left up shit creek financially, was in the middle of selling our house when he left. Admissions for Reception place for DS opens in October so I have been left with the absolute nightmare of trying to secure us a place to live in the catchment of a good school, on a very tight time frame. On my wage alone. He is contributing enough CM to cover exactly 50% of childcare costs.

He collects DS almost every single time in brand new clothes. New coat, new shoes, sunglasses etc. I know they're all new because I shared 14 years of my life with him. I hear from friends that he is posting on facebook canvassing opinions on his new (expensive) tattoo designs. He was chatting happily about how he has joined a gym only the other day. And also publicly declared his 'single' status.

I am still raw. But really, this is incredibly insensitive, right? He knows how much pressure I am under financially and what an absolute mess he has left us in. Why would he be so blatant about it? I feel like I am almost being laughed at. Look at my great new life, no worries at all.

I've had enough of all of this now. It's hard enough to keep going, get us financially stable again and parent a difficult 2 year old by myself without all of this paraded in front of me too. Why is he doing this? I feel like I've had my life ripped away and he's skipping away laughing.

Pearlman Thu 07-Jul-16 20:12:14

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lostandsoscared Thu 07-Jul-16 20:18:44

Yes, he is paying round about what he should be. Let's be honest the 15% is laughable. Particularly as his 15% covers half of the childcare. That's it.
He protested that this was the absolute maximum he could afford.

Hurtandconfused2016 Thu 07-Jul-16 20:18:58

Op I totally understand!! My ex partner left me in Jan (pregnant and 2 year old) left me up shit Creek financially emotionally everything.
He is currently buying a new flat with the ow. Me I'm trying to get our family home sorted to be sold not got 2 pennies together! Him going away Romantic trips with his gf living a life of luxury.

Me struggling to afford everything for baby and toddler wearing clothes I had before the baby (I've lost 6st since). Living with my parents as I have no money for rent and can't get housing benefit because I have a house. I can't stay in the house because he refuses to pay the mortgage.

Sending you flowers

lostandsoscared Thu 07-Jul-16 20:32:29

flowers for you too Hurt.

It beggars belief how some people behave. I'm also living with my parents now, at the grand age of 35. It's fucking depressing.

I really don't want to feel this full of rage for the rest of my life. How do I let it go?

Hurt, I really hope things start to work out for you. My friends keep reminding me karma is a bitch, I really fucking hope so.

Hurtandconfused2016 Thu 07-Jul-16 20:51:00

I'm 26 and yes is awful!! Going from having my family home to having nothing.

I have no idea I'm still so full of rage! I get it all the time and fighting him thru lawyers to get him to see the kids. It doesn't get better.

I hope you start to feel better! My family tell me karma is going to get him but I don't see it happening at all

SandyY2K Thu 07-Jul-16 20:52:25


Your Ex sounds very childish canvassing opinions on his new clothing. My teenagers don't even do that I know how unfair it seems.

Sorry about that.

lostandsoscared Thu 07-Jul-16 20:55:03

Not that it matters but it was tattoo designs he wanted the opinions on.

He's a man child. How the hell did I spend 14 years of my life with one?

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