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Applecrumbling Tue 05-Jul-16 00:39:15

That feeling.. When you've had a huge argument and you feel the trust etc slipping away. He's being awful and I feel reduced to a mess. I've been betrayed by a friend messaging him. So upset. I feel rock bottom. Not sure what I'm looking for, just wanted to get it out there, feel very alone..

Lillygolightly Tue 05-Jul-16 00:43:44

flowers so sorry your feeling upset. Don't feel you have to forgive and forget so easily or even at all. Your worth more and you deserve honestly, loyalty, love and respect. Either he has made a stupid mistake or he is just not capable of giving you those things. That makes him unworthy of you not you unworthy of him.

Applecrumbling Tue 05-Jul-16 00:49:18

Thank you LG. I know this, I know I need to let go. I'm so sad he is being the way he is. I love him..but it's making me anxious and depressed and I need to let go..

Lillygolightly Tue 05-Jul-16 01:12:31

It's always hard letting go, but it gets easier with time. Once your free of him, your free to find something better X

TheNaze73 Tue 05-Jul-16 08:21:31

I would be livid at the friend. It's the ultimate betrayal

happyandsingle Tue 05-Jul-16 08:50:26

just a general question but I've been out of the dating game for just over 8 years now as my ex walked out on us for another woman when dd was born
I won't bore with the details but at 37 I feel that if I don't get back into dating soon I might get to that Point where I loose my guts completely.
I don't have a lot of free time so just wondered how others eased themselves back into dating after so long.
are any dating sites less brutal than others as I'm not over confident?

PaintedDrivesAndPolishedGrass Tue 05-Jul-16 08:59:49

I was out of the dating game for 22 years and older than you. I joined Match, was a massive bag of nerves just writing a profile. On the first day I emailed 1 person. We talked for 6 hours on the phone that night and We met the next day. I didn't need to look at the site again. Been together ever since. So, I recommend

hellsbellsmelons Tue 05-Jul-16 09:19:30

How did this become about getting back into dating.

OP I'm so sorry you have been betrayed by 2 people who are supposed love, respect and support you.
Do you have others you can talk to in RL?
You need some support right now.
Do you live together?
Rent or own?
Have kids together?
Try to keep yourself busy.
Also try to keep yourself hydrated and your sugar levels up.
This will be a shock and you need these things to keep going.
flowers for you.
Hopefully the thread will get back to you now and not about dating?

Applecrumbling Tue 05-Jul-16 10:12:19

We don't live together and no kids together, although I had a miscarriage earlier this year. I feel heartbroken, I'm a mess. Feel betrayed , told friend things in confidence and I'm not sure what she's said. Think it has split us up. This 'friend' I have tried to support during her numerous affairs. Perhaps it's jealousy I don't know but I'm a mess. She's apologised but. I'm very confused

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