FULL DISCLOSURE
This is not a real situation. I'm writing a story and am fleshing out the characters. You lot give some really sound advice and insight into human behaviour, so I'm interested to know what advice you would give to my characters. I am disclosing this now so I don't get accused of trolling and also so people can choose whether or not to comment on this hypothetical situation.
However, I would add that it is really important to me to have these characters behave in a decent and reasonable manner. My parents didn't talk to me much about relationships when I was growing up, and in my later teen years I developed an addiction to trashy romance books, where with hindsight the characters behaved in really screwed up and often abusive ways, but that was ok because it was a deep burning passion and one true love 
. I think reading such nonsense was a direct cause of not recognising that my first serious relationship was actually deeply abusive, so it is important to me to make my characters set a good, but human, example of how to deal with their relationship.
Anyway- if anyone is still interested, this is the story.
Female character E meets male character T. They have a passionate one night stand, and get so carried away they forget to use a condom. Work (and plot lines 
) separate them. E finds out she is pregnant but can't get in contact with T. She decides to continue the pregnancy as a single parent if necessary. They are reunited when E is 4 ½ months pregnant.
E tells T that he is the father. He is blown away, but wants to have a proper relationship with the baby. He also thinks E is fantastic and wants to have a committed relationship with her. He is a decent guy, but has a tendency to be impetuous and to steamroller ahead with things because he is confident he can make them work as he goes along.
E also really likes T. She is also confident in her own abilities but is much more cautious than T. She is also a bit controlling and finds it uncomfortable if she is pushed outside her carefully considered plans.
When E is about 7 months pregnant, T is pushing her to buy a house together. She has a small flat, which is adequate for her and the baby and is happy for T to move in with her. He wants them to combine resources and get a 'proper' family home.
What would you advise E? Should she take the plunge and move to a new house with T? Or stick to her guns and give the relationship a longer trial period?
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Moving too fast?
Thistledew · 03/07/2016 09:00
Thanks to everyone who has commented on this thread. To be fair to E, she thinks just the same that you do- that it is way too soon to move in together! I would certainly tell her the same if she was a friend. I don't see T as creepy - just more of a risk taker who hasn't had the benefit of sound relationship advice from MN 
. As things turn out in the story, the decision is taken out of their hands - and if I ever get the story published, I'll tell you why!
If only all of the posters on R'ships who are making up fiction would be so transparent!
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