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What do I Do

(8 Posts)
Bruck Sun 03-Jul-16 08:32:02

My husband of 7 years but together a total of 15 years we have 3 kids and this week I found out that he contacted a escort for sex he say he didn't go though with it. I found out as the messages came up on his iPad that the kids use. He was away on a business trip. Whe he is away on average twice a month. He is really busy at work and can be really late home. I now don't know what to beleive. My whole world is shattered. He is still in hse as I have allowed him but I can't trust him. What do I do now. He says it was only for sex but then he realised he didn't want it.

hellsbellsmelons Sun 03-Jul-16 08:43:37

No trust = no relationship.
What do you want to happen next?
Your last sentence would mean his arse would be out of my door.
But it really depends on what your deal breakers are?
Would he agree to counselling?
Had he explained why he did it?
Are you two intimate with each other?

TheMorningAfterTheNightBefore Sun 03-Jul-16 10:27:44

Would be a deal breaker for me too. And it was. Not escorts, but online looking for no strings sex. I kicked him out before even hearing his excuses. Then I heard them, and it made no difference.

IreallyKNOWiamright Sun 03-Jul-16 11:57:49

Today I've found that my dh has escorts following him on twitter he hasn't blocked for spam. I can see why you are hurt and why you can't trust him. I'm hoping with mine he has just realised he hasn't changed his settings recently. I hope you find a way to move forward x

hellsbellsmelons Sun 03-Jul-16 21:29:25

I'm on Twitter and haven't blocked for spam.
Guess what?.....
Bless you Ireally but wise up.

EdithBouvierBeale Sun 03-Jul-16 21:32:01

How would you feel if he were meeting a friend or colleague die sex? Better or worse?

LauderSyme Sun 03-Jul-16 21:46:12

I don't believe he hasn't gone through with it, if not with her then someone else.
So sorry for you OP, hope you find a way through this flowers

TheMorningAfterTheNightBefore Sun 03-Jul-16 21:48:36

I'm always surprised by the number of women who try to explain it away and believe that he didn't go through with it.

One adult having sex with another, when they both want to, is the easiest thing in the world. The sort of man who'd be willing to contact an escort in the first place is definitely the sort of man who'd go through with it.

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