Tragically, in the last 6 months, DH has lost his father, mother and brother in this order. He finds it very difficult to let anyone help him and I'm so worried about the consequences of this.
To cut a long story short, he comes from a military background - British father, Argentinian mother. He has 2 brothers and they were all sent from Argentina to school in the UK as soon as they hit the age of 7. After this, they only really saw their mother twice a year. I come from Southern Italy and grew up within a very close extended family, so this kind of lifestyle has always sermed very odd to me.
They all ended doing a stint in the British military in some capacity. DH was in Afghanistan with the marines when I met him. These days we have 3 children and he has various companies.
DH has always had a quite distant and formal relationship with his father - however, when he dropped dead very suddenly in Jan this year it was a huge shock for everyone. Then in March, DH had the horrendous shock of finding his mother dead when he had called round to bring her to our house. They had become very close I later years, since she had become estranged from his father, and he had bought her a house in the same road as us about 7 years ago. She was only 66 when she died and had been in fine health all her life.
DH was also very close with his elder brother. Unfortunately, the two of them were involved in a rock climbing accident in India, about 5 years ago. His brothers leg was so badly injured that he had to have it amputated. Since the he has really struggled. He basically had a breakdown and became dependent on alcohol / drugs. He died from an overdose a few months ago, leaving a wife and 2 children (they live in NY).
DH has obviously been to all the funerals, made speeches etc, but has not taken a day of work throughout all this. I'm sure he hadn't even cried. I am very worried that this can't be normal. He feels responsible for his brother's death as he was the only other one climbing with him, but he speaks about it in very matter of fact terms. I fear he may be heading for a breakdown.
Has anyone else experienced anything like this ?
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Amaia10 · 30/06/2016 12:06
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