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Can you seperate your love life from your family life?

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crazybat Wed 29-Jun-16 20:25:20

That's it really.

Is it possible to be done? Or do you end up eventually wanting them to be a part of your family life.

6 months on and off I've been dating someone. He has met my kids briefly. But there is no family stuff days out etc. He doesn't stay over. Only comes during the evening or we go out on dates.

I'm not overly bothered by this. I'm independent. Like paying my own bills. Have enough of my own stresses. My children don't need a father figure they have their own dad's. I like the adult company. The sex and love dates and weekends away etc.

But everyone is like so what's he like with the kids? And when I say I keep it separate people react like it's not the normal thing.

Has anyone ever just kept to having a boyfriend and not a partner?

CalleighDoodle Wed 29-Jun-16 20:37:48

6 months is not a long time at all. Very short in fact. Youre right not to have him as part of family life.

One and off? Even more reason to keep them separate.

1DAD2KIDS Thu 30-Jun-16 00:26:56

Life is not one size fits all so of course in theory this is perfectly possible if both parties wish for this kind of relationship.

I am a single parent, comfortably well off and indipendent. I love my family as it is and wouldn't want to add anyone to it or change the dynamic. But that doesn't mean I can't have an adult life outside of the family. You can have what ever set up suits you proving the OP is happy with that set up to. The main thing is to be honest and open with the OP.

LesisMiserable Fri 01-Jul-16 16:21:39

If you're on and off within six months then keeping it separate is exactly the right decision.

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