My crappy life part 1
There are all sorts of problem areas in my life and I’m going to ask MN to be my life coach and help me solve them – please feel free to join in for therapy!
We have no friends. Well this is not quite true but after 30 years of marriage we have recently noticed we seldom socialise and that maybe some of the old friends we have are too busy with other stuff to keep in touch with us. My old school friends live in another county. A lot of them have taken early retirement and are much better off than us, they are always away on activity holidays /walking/climbing tending to young grandchildren and it is virtually impossible to arrange to meet up. DH’s old school friends just ignore us, we have had supper parties, invited people round, always try to fix something up around Christmas and there is never any follow up.
I have a couple of old Uni friends that I do see from time to time but I have had a difficult time at work for the last year and am exhausted, I fear I may have offended one of them by not visiting as often as I should . I’m not shy in the usual sense but I would feel awkward trying to force new contacts into friendships, and at work I manage a difficult team and have been advised by my manager not to get too close to them. We used to socialise with our neighbours as we live in a small group of newish houses, but over the years they have all changed hands and none of our current neighbours are that friendly – pleasant enough but not that camaraderie that used to exist.
I think we are nice, normal people, not extreme in any way, middle aged graduates with reasonable careers, liberal in outlook and with lots of interests. We have both had depressing situations at work to cope with that have needed a lot of hard work and have left us exhausted and stressed for significant periods of time over the last couple of years, we are often in bed at 8pm on Mondays and Tuesdays. We have two DC’s the youngest is still at Uni and the eldest working in London. TBH I don’t see large groups of middle aged people out having fun if we go to a bar or a restaurant, mainly families and couples, maybe it is the same for everyone.
What on earth is the answer to this?
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ExConstance · 29/06/2016 10:06
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