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Think i am beingcheated on

(66 Posts)
petshopboy Tue 28-Jun-16 22:07:56

This evening driving back from the seaside in my bf car a weird thing happened he has a i phone and must have had it connrcted to the bluetooth on his car anyway a name flashed up on his car bluetooth dashboard it said dawns i phone
He doesnt know a dawn neither would he have it on his phone unless hes cheating i pretended i never saw but inside i was shocked ive not mentioned anything but ive got a feeling hes cheating i cant get into his phone im a technophobe and hes properly got her name filed under some app were going through a really bad time and i was thinking of asking him to leave anyway so wouldnt be surprised if he was cheating what to do now if i ask he will deny it

ClassicMonkey Tue 28-Jun-16 22:17:53

Why would you think he was cheating just because he knows a Dawn?
I'm not sure I understand.

PacificDogwod Tue 28-Jun-16 22:19:08

Not much to go on, Is it?
Have you asked him about who Dawn is?

Misnomer Tue 28-Jun-16 22:21:52


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petshopboy Tue 28-Jun-16 22:27:20

No he def does not know a dawn
So why would he have her connected to his bluetooth
He never reacted

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SpaceUnicorn Tue 28-Jun-16 22:30:22

No he def does not know a dawn

I don't know the names of every person my husband knows, and vice versa.

How can you be so sure he doesn't know anyone called Dawn?

Misnomer Tue 28-Jun-16 22:30:39

He clearly does know a Dawn though, doesn't he. But it does seem to be a bit of a leap from there being someone he has a contact number for that you don't know to he is definitely having an affair.

Has he given you any other reason to believe that he's cheated?

petshopboy Tue 28-Jun-16 22:30:56

He works with men all day and never goes anywhere ie out socialising
He doesnt have dawn as a facebook friend either
Caught him on a website before talking and sexting woman confused

notapizzaeater Tue 28-Jun-16 22:32:01

Just ask him ?

petshopboy Tue 28-Jun-16 22:33:45

I looked through his tel numbers
He has his phone locked too and brings the phone to the toilet and to the bath

SpaceUnicorn Tue 28-Jun-16 22:34:44

He works with men all day and never goes anywhere ie out socialising

That kind of limits his options for an affair, then.

PatriciaHolm Tue 28-Jun-16 22:34:52

"He works with men all day and never goes anywhere ie out socialising"

So where did he meet Dawn and how is he having an affair with her? You can't insist that he can't possibly have a friend called Dawn whilst simultaneously insisting he's having an affair with her.

Anyway. Talk to him.

PacificDogwod Tue 28-Jun-16 22:34:56

I think you have bigger problems than 'Dawn' tbh.
Does your relationship make your feel happy and does it add to your life, or do you feel insecure and anxious?
Did you ask him about Dawn?

glasgowlass Tue 28-Jun-16 22:35:05

Getting a phone call = cheating? That's a massive leap.

PatriciaHolm Tue 28-Jun-16 22:36:35

How did you look through his phone numbers if you can't get into his phone and he keeps it locked?

AyeAmarok Tue 28-Jun-16 22:37:22

I don't think this sounds like a very good or healthy relationship.

Diamogs Tue 28-Jun-16 22:37:26

So when it said "dawn's iPhone" that wasn't a call coming through? Or was it the bluetooth connecting to his iPhone. Could it be that one of his mates changed the name of his phone for a 'laugh'?

petshopboy Tue 28-Jun-16 22:37:37

I think he might be chatting to a women online and has her number not a full blown affair but still cheating in my book if hes online searching for women

petshopboy Tue 28-Jun-16 22:38:36

Bluetooth connected to his i phone i think ?

PacificDogwod Tue 28-Jun-16 22:39:08

What do YOU want to do?
We can't tell you how to lead your life.

Thattimeofyearagain Tue 28-Jun-16 22:39:35

Massive leap.

petshopboy Tue 28-Jun-16 22:40:18

No hes only got 1 friend he hears from very rarely the only people that ring are people selling stuff
Been with him 4 yrs

petshopboy Tue 28-Jun-16 22:43:25

I looked through his numbers about 2 months ago when he handed me his phone. To make a call

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