Hi all,
I could really use some advice please. I have been with my D(?)H for 10 years, married 5 and we have an almost 3 year old together.
Being honest, it was never the most passionate of relationships, it was more that I found a good man at a time of my life when I felt I wanted to settle down and start a family. He really is a good man; he is kind, generous, hard working and devoted to me and our son.
However and it is a big however, our sex life is non-existant and has been for a couple of years now. It was never good really, but in the early days, at least we tried. Now, neither of us put in the effort. I don't find him attractive any more. He says he does me, but this is something I find hard to believe considering his lack of sexual attention towards me.
Late last year I told him that I was no longer happy with the relationship, we have found ourselves of living together as siblings and we are now in separate bedrooms and have been for more than 6 months. I told him I wanted to separate. He was devastated but told me that it seemed done deal on my behalf and he could only resepect my decision.
Yet, we continue to live and parent together. During the day we tick along nicely, no cross words, no anger, no anything really. We keep up a united front for the sake of our DS. When our DS goes to bed, we sit in separate rooms all evening, wish eachother goodnight and do it all again the next day. It's killing me.
The plan is for him to move out. There is a severe lack of suitable properties in our area for him to move to, but he also seemed to be dragging his heels and ignoring the situation. I guess I have too...
Last week he told me that he wanted us to stay together and he would do whatever he could to make things better. My heart sank when he said it to be honest. I feel like the biggest bitch in the world right now. He is so sad.
What can I do? I'm not in love with him any more. I care for him, I respect him and I love him in a platonic way. Is this enough? Can we come back from this? Can you force or at least encourage romantic feelings?
It's such a mess and I'm in bits today. Thank you for reading. If anyone has any advice I'd be so grateful. I don't know what to do for the best for me, for him and for my son.
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StayOrGo2016 · 27/06/2016 12:44
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