I’m really not sure what to do. My ex-mil has now emailed me for the second time in less than a week asking to see the children. I ignored the first email (well I'd hardly had time to process it I got a second one) and I have a feeling it won't just go away.
I had a thread a while back. My exh who was abusive and controlling left the country during the divorce and doesn’t see the children. Last time was Christmas. His family live here, not far. When it all kicked off all those months ago I was keen to keep in touch with his mother at least for the kids’ sake. We'd always had quite a good relationship. I had it quite separated in my head that what exh did was nothing to do with his family. It started ok then deteriorated quickly as exh didn't like it. A few months into divorce, allegations that I neglected the children were made, and I was also asked formally/threatened to stop contacting (ex)mil. Everything stopped. The children last saw ex-MIL around Christmas. She doesn't contact the DCs. Literally dropped off their radar. One of the DC’s birthday has also gone unacknowledged. I have had to deal with the fallout of all this with the children who obviously didn’t take it well. I’m quite shocked still that they could do this but the kids and I have regained stability. To an extent the NC enabled me to recover more quickly.
I'm fearful of ex-mil's intentions. I don't trust her. Her second email is possibly less friendly than the first, she mentions her rights, she says she wants to talk and asks me to give her a ring. I feel sorry things ended this way but something tells me it isn't right, and the timing as well. The kids had a really hard time coming to terms with the situation. And the way exh's family behaved made my anxiety a lot worse.
Any advice? Can she force contact? Her son made no provision for anything involving her. It's up to him to ask, isn't it? Should I tell her to talk to exh and not me? Should I play dead? I don't know what's the best thing to do or if it is salvageable. I just feel complete dread and panic at the thought of having to deal with them again. Exh still emails me on a regular basis but I never respond, and he only talks about himself never mentions his family.
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adorably2014 · 27/06/2016 12:15
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