Have nc for this as frightened of outing myself.
Ex and I split 3 years ago. I was in a really bad place at time of split, have history of depression and self harm, self harming had got out of control mainly due to being so unhappy with ex.
Because he didn't trust my menus health, ex took me to court for ds. They decided test he should have residency and I should have contact.
It's been that way since. I've steadily increased my contact since, by improving myself then going back to court and obtaining more time. Nowadays I probably have more waking time with ds than ex but because ds school is literally feet away from where ex lives ds still spends more overnights with him than me. I think it works out I have him 10 nights and ex has him 20.
I give ex money for maintenance. I have a low paying job so I give him 140 a month.
In Jan ex told me that he was going on holiday in June for 2 weeks. He asked me to have ds for these weeks and of course I was happy to, I was so looking forward to it.
For the month of June, I reduced his payment by 50 pounds because ds was going to be with me more nights than with ex. I still gave him 100.
2 days before ex was due to leave he told me he wasn't going on holiday after all. He refused to still let me take ds and demanded the 50 pounds. He blackmailed me saying that he would go to court again and reduce my time if I didn't give him the money. I had a few extra nights arranged with ds in the summer hols and now he's cancelled all of them.
I'm confused and don't know if I'm being U.
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