So as my name suggests I'm incredibly upset by this whole situation and could really do with some perspective. I have been married 2 years and from my perspective things had been ok. Not great but not awful late one night I got home late - I used to work 70hr weeks - and my iPad had died so I picked up my OH and used his being nosy I looked at his history (was my birthday coming up) and found that he had been looking at adultworks website a lot . He had a password on his iPad that he didn't think I knew so there was a lot of history. All on this site, also looking at incest porn and underage porn. Makes me feel sick typing this. Anyway I thought maybe he's looking because he's best man for his friend and is looking to play a prank (not uncommon) so I did what every insane person would do and set up a key logger on his laptop (I realise this is bad but I really wanted to prove myself wrong and didn't want to start a fight). In the back of my head I must have known that it was a possibility he was punting... But I also decided to wait until after the wedding to see if he stopped using the site (the wedding was in May). This caused me a great deal of stress but I knew he would just lie and fob me off if I didn't have proof. So during those months I can see he's been on adultworks a lot and also using webcam girls (I got his log in details and although I couldn't see any messages to any ladies of the night I could see he's paid for webcam girls) I could also see he's been searching for escorts by postcode our home postcode. He's also been on to swingers websites and another called Sussex punting, and typing in local escorts, and tips on what to do with a hooker. I confronted him this weekend and haven't been able to stop crying. He swears he never met up with any of them just viewed it as porn (because he finds normal porn boring) and doesn't see the problem with webcam girls. I have gone to stay at a friends house and he's begging me to come back saying he will do anything see consillor etc ... I'm just so broken... I don't want to walk away from him as I love him but I don't know if I can trust him again. I mean how do I know that he hasn't met up with these girls... By taking his word for it ?
If it makes any difference he's v controlling over money and nothing's in my name (house) so if I walk away I will walk away with nothing. I thought the past months I have known would mean I'm less upset, but I'm devestated.
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Husbands browser history includes adultworks - should I leave him ?
Vunhappy123 · 27/06/2016 08:41
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