So me and my boyfriend have a good relationship, when I'm okay, he's okay, but he still picks at little things...how I look (if my hair is a mess) (if I don't have dressy up clothes on). It's like he's always looking for something to 'talk' about or should I say argue about!
I've always been a long term sufferer with anxiety and when we first met I felt like I was in a really good place and was able to control it. Recently, it's a different story. I had a really bad episode the other day where I was driving and my anxiety got that bad, I forgot where I was, what I was doing and completely had a brain blank for about 15/20 seconds. IT WAS SCARY!
I haven't seen my boyfriend since Tuesday and tonight I saw him, he kept going on about how, it might be this...it might be that...not really asking me anything, more so dictating to me what it could be, which f*king pi*es me off!
Tonight I was on the sofa, and I have a bad leg, suffer with sciatica and it's really bad, like sometimes I can hardly walk, and he said to me am I gonna go and sit next to him on the sofa, I said no because my leg is hurting, which it is most of the time and he made a sarcastic comment and said we'd not sat next to each other since our holiday, I started feeling my anxiety bubbling up again and started having an anxiety attack, he just sat there and paused the TV and carried on smoking his joint.
My boyfriend smokes weed everyday, sometimes I feel like it controls his life. We got in from work tonight and the first thing he did was roll a joint. His friend rang him earlier and asked something and he said 'I'll come round tomorrow night and have a joint with you' ... Me and him were meant to be going out tomorrow night for a meal! I didn't say anything and then he goes, 'do you fancy doing something during the day instead of tomorrow night' ... Like I didn't just hear what he said to his friend!!!
I find him SO disrespectful!!
He doesn't take pride in anything, his appearance, his house is absolutely disgusting!! The kitchen hasn't seen a mop for years, the carpet in his hall way absolutely stinks!! He has a dog which also stinks! His house has no carpet except the hall, it's just all completely raw floorboards! Whenever I go round there I'm sneezing none stop, and I don't know why! Probably from all the dust!
I just don't know how to approach all these things with him because if/when I have done in the past he just sees it as me having a dig or a go at him!
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Partner smokes too much weed and doesn't understand my anxiety
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amyc88 · 26/06/2016 03:04
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