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WWYD? A minor situation but it's bugging me...

(16 Posts)
Stopmithering Fri 24-Jun-16 20:32:32

A sibling has unfriended me on Facebook.
We aren't close and I'm not devestated but this sibling still has lots of FB friends. Just me given the axe.
Should I ask why?
Or just leave it?
It feels like a 'I don't like you'.

Scarydinosaurs Fri 24-Jun-16 20:33:38

Do you post political/controversial stuff?

PurpleDaisies Fri 24-Jun-16 20:33:44

Just ask-they might have done it by accident.

HappyJanuary Fri 24-Jun-16 20:36:14

You like racist stuff, share 'inspirational' quotes or post endless photos of your dinner?

SolsburyHell Fri 24-Jun-16 20:41:57

Yep, if you regularly post boring/controversial crap then don't be surprised. Otherwise, ask her.

Arfarfanarf Fri 24-Jun-16 20:47:42

Pretend you havent even noticed.
It's the only way grin

Stopmithering Fri 24-Jun-16 20:49:33

Don't post much at all!
I might have posted a pic of me after finishing a half marathon once.
No 'inspirational' shite.
Nowt controversial or political that sibling wouldn't completely agree with.
No dinner shots.
Hmm, will pick my moment to ask.

Stopmithering Fri 24-Jun-16 20:54:56

I have ignored it for a long time, Arf.
Maybe best to carry on.
If I'm honest I don't think my sibling likes me much at all and I've never understood why.
But I'm not going to change that by asking, I suppose.

loveyoutothemoon Fri 24-Jun-16 21:07:04

Do you 'like' her stuff?

loveyoutothemoon Fri 24-Jun-16 21:15:12

Or do you like other people's stuff but not hers?

ravenmum Fri 24-Jun-16 23:06:09

Maybe your sibling wants to tell laddish jokes, banter with his mates or share photos of his latesr gf without always having to change his settings so big sister doesn't see?

CalleighDoodle Fri 24-Jun-16 23:06:57

It might be that you dont post much at all. Ive deleted people in the past who never post as i just assume they dont use fb anymore.

HeddaGarbled Fri 24-Jun-16 23:19:07

Bollocks to all those PP trying to attribute blame to you. Clearly, unless you are seriously offensive on FB, a sibling who defriends you is being deliberately nasty and provocative.

I wouldn't ask, confront etc. I would just detach. You've already picked up that they don't like you. Fine, if that's how they feel, that's their right. But don't demean yourself. No contact unless forced by family occasions and then distant politeness is all that is required.

PutneyPandora Fri 24-Jun-16 23:42:47

Hi, Facebook can be a weird one...Stopmithering,personally I wouldn't read into it too much, there are people who do the occasional culling of their friends' list but I think if it really bothers you, go the tried and tested route and call your sibling...(no email or text) suggest a coffee meet up if easier - a conversation can get to the root in swift time and is one communication channel that can't be misconstrued or misinterpreted.
Best of luck

HappyJanuary Sat 25-Jun-16 09:31:57

I think you should ask rather than ignore.

It could be a misunderstanding, and ignoring it could breed resentment and allow unnecessary bad feeling to fester.

Just say 'I noticed you unfriended me on facebook' and see how she reacts.

I'm basing this entirely on an old school friend berating me for unfriending her when I was adamant she'd unfriended me. It was weird but clearly neither of us intended it to happen.

If she says 'yeah I did' then you've got your answer and can resent away!

didyoureally Sat 25-Jun-16 09:39:28

Has your sibling still got members of the family as FB friends? If not could be some aspect of his/her life that he/she doesn't want to share with the rest of you? Not necessarily anything bad btw!

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