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Do I continue to hope man child will get his shit together or leave?
DP by his own admission isn't great with money and earns almost double what I do. His credit rating isn't good even though he's supposedly been working on it for past 6 years.
10 yrs ago and pre DCs I got a loan for him for £7.5k which I paid back and took the amount off my household contributions as he was unable to manage setting up a D/D.
Last year I took out £5k which was supposed to be to consolidate debts so we can build a deposit for a house. Now he's asked me for another £2-5k loan.
I desperately want to own a house for our small DCs to give them permanence and as an investment.
This year we have been late with the rent several times as his payment hasn't reached my account and he can't/won't explain how he gets into debt and get defensive. So I don't have a clear picture of our finances.
He doesn't have a great record for being honest - he'll tell me he's working late and comes home drunk. And recently he's been messaging v old (single) girlfriends and met one for drinks while away with work - but there's no indication of affair or emotional cheating. Financial stability and honesty are big things for me - I'm so embarrassed I'm in this situation.
Sorry for the long post, I can't see this situation clearly so asking MNetters for sage advice. Do give him the loan once more (and be clear it's the last time) to get us straight financially or do I LTB? Is there a way to stay together and be financially sound and transparent and not break up my family?
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Will DP ever get his shit together financially?
NoMoneyMoProblems · 24/06/2016 07:54
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