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I've met someone and I don't know how to finish this title.

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ProfessorPickles Thu 23-Jun-16 22:14:56

I apologise for the terrible thread title, but I didn't have a clue what to go with and could no longer ask your advice grin
I still like train edition but didn't want to use it incase it's terrible, which it probably is.

So here we are, part three of the 'I've met someone' saga.
The first thread was very positive and exciting, the second was mostly negative for all of us and here we are starting the third!

Let's make it a good one! smile

CrazyDuchess Thu 23-Jun-16 22:17:23

Was keeping an eye out grin now back on my watch list

ProfessorPickles Thu 23-Jun-16 22:17:36

I regret not naming it something better already blushgrin

ProfessorPickles Thu 23-Jun-16 22:18:36

Nice to see you Duchess, it's so exciting starting a new thread and seeing all the regulars joining back in smile

ThisIsTheRightTime Thu 23-Jun-16 22:20:42

No, it's pithy and to the point Prof! wink

I'm delighted! Thanks to you we have a way of moving on and a bloody good excuse for starting a new thread. Yay!

CrazyDuchess Thu 23-Jun-16 22:21:42

Thread title is perfect!

ProfessorPickles Thu 23-Jun-16 22:23:55

Looking back we all had a bit of a rubbish time in the last thread didn't we? Me and PG had quite a terrible time and you were doubting things a lot at one point, This. I feel like you're still a little anxious but I feel like you're calmer now too. Do you think the same?

Don't thank me, thank graphics man! grin
I could never have imagined how the evening was going to end, I was just happy to be going for a drink with a lovely group of people. Life is crazy! smile

ThisIsTheRightTime Thu 23-Jun-16 22:26:50

The beauty of the unexpected in life. This happened to me when I was working in Greece, I was around your age. One night, March 10th to be precise, I was on break and one of my students came up to me with her beautiful smile and said that there were two other students celebrating their birthday after class and they both wanted to invite me as they were both in love with me!

Bloody hell!

I ended up going out for a very long and passionate time with the most good-looking one. wink One of the most beautiful relationships I've had.

ThisIsTheRightTime Thu 23-Jun-16 22:27:20

Sorry, above message was aimed mostly at Prof!

ProfessorPickles Thu 23-Jun-16 22:27:39

I suppose the thread title is appropriate in that I don't know what's happening because my brain is allover the shop with excitement and worry grin

ThisIsTheRightTime Thu 23-Jun-16 22:30:00

A normal reaction Prof! It wouldn't bode well if you were all nonchalant about this budding romance.

No, I'm not more confident but maybe a little calmer.

Good night my dears! See you tomorrow! Cannot wait to hear your latest news Prof! apivita make sure you join us. And Sweeney and, who else is there? I'm so tired. smile

ProfessorPickles Thu 23-Jun-16 22:30:55

Ooh get you, This!! That sounds wonderful. The choice of two eh? smile
It's surprising how quickly you can go from 'plodding along' (as I'd call it haha) to suddenly all this excitement and new happenings.

It's funny (and sad) that I also have the choice of two, I believe. His friend seems to have a thing for me, he bought me a drink and was so lovely to me the same evening. I feel quite selfish now because he was there when graphics man said he liked me and I told him I felt the same. I really hope I'm wrong and that he isn't interested in me too!

ProfessorPickles Thu 23-Jun-16 22:31:59

Yes let's hope the others find us soon! smile

Good night This, I'm so pleased we are all still in touch and that the thread hasn't died out just yet. We still have plenty of work to do! grin

Speak to you tomorrow, sleep well xx

BigApple11 Thu 23-Jun-16 22:32:39

Ok can you recap please Prof I read the first thread but not much of the second...did you ask the tutor out? What happened?!

AnthonyPandy Thu 23-Jun-16 22:33:13

Prof I think I missed a bit, last thing I read you liked a uni tutor but he had a girlfriend, so who is the new romance with?

ThisIsTheRightTime Thu 23-Jun-16 22:34:28

Have you got all night BigApple11? wink

ProfessorPickles Thu 23-Jun-16 22:35:21

Haha excellent!! I love it when new posters come out of nowhere smile
I will try and recap you without writing the worlds biggest post, 2 minutes! smile

ProfessorPickles Thu 23-Jun-16 22:51:50

Right, I'm all tucked up in bed ready to recap grin any questions, feel free to ask!

In the first thread we were all quite sure he was interested and flirting with me etc. I had plans to ask him out as I was leaving uni with him being a tutor.

In the second thread two friends found out he has a girlfriend which was quite gutting but I was so relieved to find out as all the stress and worry was instantly gone. Quite a bit of sadness ensued, but I felt alright soon after. He's continued to be a little flirty with me and it now puts me off him. It basically just ended when I found out about him not being single!
Towards the end of the second thread it was my exhibition of my uni work, which was actually only this Tuesday!

The new guy in question, is someone I fancied two years ago when we first met who is a student on the graphics course. We had a shared lesson together for most of the first year and I felt instantly attracted to him. I didn't think too much about it as I was in a new relationship at the time (I remembered that bit earlier today when talking it over with a friend) and I could never have imagined him being interested in me anyway!
So fast forward two years to now and after the exhibition I joined the graphics group for a celebratory drink (or six) and I found out he's fancied me the entire time.

Had I have not found out about tutor mans girlfriend then I'd never have found out graphics man had liked me all of this time. It's funny the way things turn out isn't it? I was so disappointed about tutor man, but here I am feeling even better about graphics man who seems more genuine and is nervous around me. Where as PG said in the previous thread it seems like tutor man knew what he was doing and was 'smooth'.

There's loads more about it towards the end of the second thread if you can be bothered grin

I'm not sure what else to include!! I'll have missed something vital no doubt.

PG and This have had allsorts going on too but I will leave it to them to share their stories if they'd like to recap smile

ProfessorPickles Thu 23-Jun-16 23:06:45

I've put everyone to sleep with my wittering blush

LovePGtipsMonkey Thu 23-Jun-16 23:35:15

well hello to the new thread! Yes let's hope that this one is much happier than thread 2! Good title actually - nice and open to possibilities as we don't know the outcome yet but no action needed from you, Prof, unlike in thread 1 - thouhg action is needed from This (looks at this insistently)! so you can just relax (relatively!) Prof, and watch it unfold. Possibly a nice and slow progress - if you are happy with that.
This, I was VERY pleased that we've scraped the jam jar, in fact 1001 posts!
Thanks, Prof for your good wishes to me in the end of the last thread, I'm nowhere near close to moving on (the build up was 6 months plus) from him but yes I hope I'll be moving on in some way. No I'm sure there is no one admiring me from afar that I also fancy - there aer two men who have some feelings for me but both much much older and one is friend of a few years now (he accepted the situation), I don't fancy him in the slightest. The other good looking but boring (just not same intellectual level at all) and I don't have any feelings for him at all and he's married. Anyone I did fancy in the last few years is married so nothing will happen there (one has been flirting but I got fed up as he doesn't do anything - a bit like your tutor, a tease). No one of these fancied men come close in my affections to this one. So it would have to be someone new, I suppose! and please someone who is not too shy and shows some initiative (not just flirts a bit from a distance). I did actually date someone last summer who was quite upfront - enjoyed that but it didn't go further than a m,onth or so of dating - JUST dating) due to many reasons. Basically no strong feelings again.

ThisIsTheRightTime Fri 24-Jun-16 16:09:53

Any news then Prof? smile

I'll be back a little later with a small update. Aside from that I'm still besotted! wink

ProfessorPickles Fri 24-Jun-16 17:32:50

Glad to see you back PG, I think you're right that I need to sit and wait a bit. I feel all impatient and restless! I'm a nightmare haha. I think tutor man has made it worse as it's still fresh!
That's a shame that you don't have feelings for the men you know/dated, I agree it's very important. Hopefully things will only get better for you now smile

Nothing from me I'm afraid, he replied but nothing exciting. He didn't come in today! I'm feeling moody about it all again, but things are a bit naff at the minute across the board unfortunately.

Can't wait to hear the update This!

ThisIsTheRightTime Fri 24-Jun-16 17:38:15

Right, well, I drove past the garage this morning, without slowing down, and saw, for about three seconds, B standing outside with a man. They were opposite each other and what struck me was how relaxed he was in holding eye contact with this person. Normal, steady eye contact, relaxed. Nothing like the nervous, averted gaze he has with me. Three seconds only but I was struck by that. Also, the huge impact seeing him had on me. I felt completely electric after seeing him.


So this afternoon I went in. I saw the boss's wife. We chatted about the referendum, which has honestly shocked me to the core, we talked about the impact it might have on me if I decided to move over. I told her that I was leaving early July but that I was hoping to stay in France and carry on working occasionally with England from here. I don't know if I was crystal clear but that was the message I wanted to bring across. smile

I booked my Mercedes in for Thursday morning for a check-up before leaving for England on Monday. Whilst I was talking to her, I heard what was probably Benoit, beside the open door. I heard paper being ripped off the paper roll thingy and someone cleaning their hands. If it was him he stayed by the open door for a while. I am ashamed to say that I didn't turn round or say hello. I was doing my usual acting nonchalant thing when I care too much. After ten minutes I mentioned the family of mosquitos living in my home. The boss's wife replied 'Benoit was telling me the exact same thing this morning". There are no coincidences in life and perhaps even a case of synchronicity!

I will say something to him on Thursday. I have bought myself yet again some more time. But my fear of revealing my feelings is tearing me up a little inside and using up my energy. I cannot control how these emotions affect me but in a few days time I should be a little clearer, whether it's a yes or no and then I'll be able to leave for England and put some distance between him and I if he doesn't have the courage to say yes!

Yes, I am a coward, but after everything I've been through recently I choose not to berate myself too much.

I cannot wait for Thursday which is perfect timing as I have an appointment at the hairdresser's before then! wink

Muddlewitch Fri 24-Jun-16 18:18:04

Yay I found you smile

Good work This though why didn't you turn around? I wouldn't have either, but that is my downfall Hopefully the message will get passed to him.

I like the thread title Prof and glad graphics guy has messaged back.

This is going to be a happy thread I can tell..

LovePGtipsMonkey Fri 24-Jun-16 19:56:51

This, I'm not sure it was B by the door - it'd be strange if he didn't say hello to you or tried to chat about the Jag if he saw you! It's also a bit odd that you didn't turn around but hopefully he thought you didn't hear him (if it WAS him) rustling with paper. I hope she tells him re your plans about staying in France but I would still tell him next week when you see him - if it wasn't him there ad she doesn't tell him, he wouldn;t know!
What did she say about the Jag?
Prof - well no, it's only two men who would be seriously interesteds, both much older - so hardly surprising I don't have feelings, if there were a dozen maybe the chance would be I did fancy one (but that alone is not enough for LTR) - I mean it's hardly unusual not to easily fancy just any men -I think there is again a difference with ages. When you aer in your 20s you ALWAYS have a choice of available men in numbers so likely to fancy or be interested in one of them - same as a number intertestd in you. So few single men in their 40s-50s who are also a good match to me - apart from the fact that I just don't meet many men as I'm not in make environment routinely - being a student is so different!

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