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Partner is deceiving me

(19 Posts)
TurquoiseNails Thu 23-Jun-16 06:37:45

I've found out a couple things about my partner this morning. I went to look at the time on his phone, and it wasn't locked and was on his text messages to his brother. I just couldn't help but see the conversation.

Firstly, my partner is going to try and get sacked from work today by taking his phone with him on to the shop floor (he works in a call centre and it's a sackable offence).
His brother asked if I know his plan and my partner just said "No and I don't intend on telling her". His brother just laughed and said "haha ok".

Secondly, my partner was going on about this "bird" at work who is "fucking gorgeous" who he will definitely stay in touch with.

I don't go snooping at his messages ever. I just saw these ones on the off chance. Do I have it out with him before he goes to work?

KittyLaRoux Thu 23-Jun-16 06:39:42

Why does he want to get sacked?

Ahh who cares just run for the hills OP this man is no good for you.

TurquoiseNails Thu 23-Jun-16 06:42:37

Because he has been getting low scores at work and instead of trying to improve and act on their constructive criticism, he'd rather get the sack and run away from it. hmm

KittyLaRoux Thu 23-Jun-16 06:45:53

Yeah run for the hills.
This man will mot bring anything positive to your life. He would rather get sacked than do his job. He will only keep in touch with a work friend because she is fucking gorgeous.......mmmm hes a catch.

Get out now OP it will only bring you misery if you stay.

RiceCrispieTreats Thu 23-Jun-16 06:47:39

OK, so he gets to be sacked twice today: by his employers, and by you.

Unless you approve of his ethics, wrt fidelity and work?

I didn't think so.

WellErrr Thu 23-Jun-16 06:48:25

Lucky you seeing his true colours now.

Run!

BeatricePotter Thu 23-Jun-16 06:50:10

And? Do you really need to ask what to do?

zippey Thu 23-Jun-16 06:55:14

Let him go to work, while he does, pack up all his stuff. Then call him at work to let him know. He will get his wish of being sacked, and you'll get your wish of being rid of an arse.

TurquoiseNails Thu 23-Jun-16 06:57:26

He's been going on about how he's worried about his job and I've been there for him, telling him to do the best he can and act on their advice, and he should be ok. And now this. He's been worried about them letting him go and I've been trying to ease his worries, but yet he's going to try and get sacked by gross misconduct confused I just don't get the logic behind that at all.

He is still snoring away in bed at the moment. I really want him out. This today is just in a long list of upset he causes me.

penisbeakerlaminateflooringetc Thu 23-Jun-16 06:58:12

I'd not put up with this - have you got children? If not I wouldn't even confront him, just leave without giving a reason. Or maybe say he doesn't turn you on anymore.

TurquoiseNails Thu 23-Jun-16 07:09:08

Yes we have 1 child together and he has a child from a previous relationship.

LumpySpacedPrincess Thu 23-Jun-16 07:15:18

Get rid, seriously. Nothing good will come from a relationship with this man and you are wasting time. Sack him.

blueskyinmarch Thu 23-Jun-16 07:18:00

Your partner is an arse. You need to work on you plan for separating today. You have said you want him out so that is what you work on. Do you rent? Who is on the tenancy agreement?

DoreenLethal Thu 23-Jun-16 07:24:50

Unless he is the home owner, change the locks and pack his stuff whilst he is there and yes, call him to tell him. He isn't prepared to actually support you and his child so he is of no use whatsoever to you.

MissClarke86 Thu 23-Jun-16 07:25:22

Are you sure it's not bravado/jest?

Goingtobeawesome Thu 23-Jun-16 07:27:48

You do know they aren't really letting people go don't you? hmm.

He's laying the ground work so he can say he was made redundant..

Definitely a case of put up and shut up or get out and make a better life.

SandyY2K Thu 23-Jun-16 07:28:38

He is a very irresponsible man. Why not get another job or try improving. On top of that he's going to keep in touch with the girl at work.

You've got quite a catch there. What are his good points

dudsville Thu 23-Jun-16 07:30:36

This is beside the point but there are so many ways to find out the time while respecting another person's privacy.

However yes you are lucky to have found out and you know what to do.

Isetan Thu 23-Jun-16 07:40:46

You've posted about this one before haven't you? It's time to time to call time on him but I'd get it over and done with so you're not spending the whole day stressing.

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