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What helpful advice would you give?

(7 Posts)
Kungfupandaworksout16 Wed 22-Jun-16 16:44:18

The comments in my opinion aren't productive it's more of a " I'd hit him , pack his bags etc " What advice would you give this lady?

TheNaze73 Wed 22-Jun-16 16:56:24

Either put up or shut up. No person in their right mind would put up with that. It's obviously a joke

goddessofsmallthings Wed 22-Jun-16 17:19:52

The h has made it clear he has no intention whatsoever of changing his disgusting disrespectful ways and other than telling her to watch other men on her iPad when she's having sex with her h, endure a sexless marriage, or seek a divorce, what advice is there to give?

As I doubt that being humiliated by her supremely self-entitled h in this degrading manner is the only issue in the marriage, it seems to me that the only sensible advice that can be given is to LTB and, if nothing else, it might go some way to persuade him that he's at fault when he sees his behaviour described in writing on her petition to divorce.

LesisMiserable Thu 23-Jun-16 09:21:41

I don't think it is a joke. My friends dh does the same - watches porn on his phone whilst having sex (I'm assuming this is what this is). I suppose its just an up to date version of watching porn on the tv whilst doing it, but it being on one person's phone makes it even more impersonal. My advice would be that if genuinely can't get off without it he's done too much and is conditioned to it and there may be no way back unfortunately.

LesisMiserable Thu 23-Jun-16 09:22:53

My friend is genuinely blissfully happy with her dh and actually doesn't really mind him doing it as she quite likes it. So. It's all about how the individual feels.

HarmlessChap Fri 24-Jun-16 12:06:45

Its quite well documented but guys like this have conditioned their brains through years of porn usage. They simply can not get off through "normal" sex and need additional or "more specific" stimulation. Generally its simply a case of stopping using porn and letting the brain re-set itself, willingness to do so however may be less forthcoming.

None of that tackles any aspects of respect or appropriate boundaries but might form a basis to work from.

adora1 Fri 24-Jun-16 12:20:32

Could a man be any less attractive, how grim.

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