Not sure if others have been in this situation, but I am going through a separation and my STBXW is really adamant on how she wants the financial split to happen. The terms she is proposing would put me at quite a disadvantage and are basically unfair. She feels that she deserves to get more than me, partly because she feels hard done by and angry with me (even though the split was mutual: no major incident or drama, just a growing apart) but chiefly because I have two living parents who will at some stage die and leave me money. She has no living family, so this is not going to happen for her.
I am torn on how to proceed. I have always wanted our split to be as cordial as possible, and for our kids to feel that we are not at each others' throats. The money issue could well torpedo all that, as she has stated that if I choose to 'get lawyers involved' (whatever that means) then it's all going to get really nasty and she's going to fight with everything she can. I really feel it would get expensive, drawn-out, and mean.
So...do I just accept her terms? I would still get a decent amount but she is essentially asking me to just leave her with sole ownership of the family home we bought together, without her either having to 'buy me out' up front or split the equity if/when it eventually sells in the future. Might I end up spending £X (on legal fees) just to get £X from the divorce split, and therefore bring a lot of misery and stress into my life for no real purpose/reward?
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Divorcing: Have to choose between going for the money or preserving some cordiality with STBXW
OnTheBr1nk · 20/06/2016 12:50
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