Please can I just have a rant? Because otherwise I will go and shout at my daughter and she has her last exam on Tuesday so I really don't want to.
I have a couple of previous threads, but in summary:
Realised a year ago that DH doesn't love, respect or care for me. I was distraught at the time. He has ignored me increasingly over about the last 7 years, has used my daughter as a TV companion until after I've gone to bed since she was about 14, which has driven a wedge between us because I haven't had a chance to talk to him on our own.
When I told them there was a problem and first asked him to go to relate (June 15) he said he would have more time after he had finished his exams. I didn't realize that he meant he would ignore the problem until he had finished (November) he took no time off over the summer, didn't help with the kids, reneged on the promise that we would have an autumn holiday as he went on a course instead. I visit my family ( 8 hrs travel away) and have to visit his too as they're nearby; summer and Christmas. Can't have my family here as he is awful to them. Same with my friends, only friendly if he feels like it, otherwise blanks them.
Trivialises my job, interests, opinions. Etc And yes, I've read a lot of stuff on emotional abuse now and it all sounds rather familiar.
Row yesterday: DH yelling that I just wanted to go and live in a house without hiDaughter is now telling me that she is really cross with me and her dad. That we just need to sit down and talk to each other reasonably, because we love each other(??) I did love him, but it's gone and I'm not sure now how long it is since he stopped loving me. In all our arguments recently though he has never once mentioned love. He just says we can't split up. I have tried so hard to pretend everything is ok for the kids this year, because of the exams. In particular I've been trying not to say anything negative about their Dad. But what has he been saying to her? And what should I say to her now?
If you've managed to read this far, thank you. It got a bit long.
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AtTheEndofTheRoad · 19/06/2016 09:29
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