I have posted a few times about this under this name change.
Short history - I have four kids, two with Sen so been quite involved ( on my request - which in hindsight was utterly stupid of me) SS as I was trying to secure respite for my ASD toddler.
I have a tendency to hoard so I'm a hoarder. You possibly would not know if you came too my house. Yes it's cluttered, yes it quite full but it's clean it's tidy there is zero issues with accessing anywhere in the house. There's no paths through crap or things pilled to the ceiling.
So anyway I have issues with getting rid of things like toys, clothes etc but also opening mail, emails. I open what looks important and ignore the rest.
I went to the dr at the beginning of the year. I had cbt but now I have moved into therapy as I hoarded as a child, grew up with a hoarder. It's not something cbt could dent.
Now I'm under a phyc or similar Dr ( not sure what her PhD is ).
If I'm totally honest my hoarding stems from childhood abuse but it's got worse or not resolved due to the extreme stress of my Sen kids.
As part of my SS assesment ( which I didn't meet criteria for respite or anything ) my hoarding was discussed at lenght in a meeting. I was told that anything personal could be kept out of the meeting (TAC) but my wishes not to discus my house was ignored. I had no idea they would ignore my wishes and sat in the meeting in a cold sweat as my personal details was shared. I have never felt so ashamed. I haven't been diagnosed as a hoarder and if I had not asked for help with it no one would be able to say "your a hoarder".
So now I'm under this dr. I told her about my confidential info being shared before, that I was worried to trust her.
She told me that she can't gaurantee that my case details will not be discussed outside of the therapy room. I have decided to keep my abuse to myself.
I don't know what I want from this thread. Will therapy help me with stress and procrastination if I don't discuss where and why it started? It was physical and mental abuse from my for over 20 years. She denies it ever happened. SS was called by neighbours but they only came once and never investigated.
I possibly need therapy at some point for her. I just need to control this hoarding before it does become a bigger issue. Physically looking at the house it's under control. In my head I struggle with it every day. Right now it defines me. I feel that I am a hoarder. That's one word to sum me up. But I didn't feel like this 12 months ago. I was just a clutter collector. A bit behind with sorting things
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MedwayMumoffour · 19/06/2016 00:02
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