Will try and make very long story short without leaving out any crucial details….
Met exP 14 years ago, have 2 DCs (now 4&6). We'd been growing apart since DC2 born and I moved out with DC's about 6 months ago. Although it was initially his request to separate, he then refused to discuss any aspect of separation other than to confirm “we’re over”. I hung in for a while hoping he'd see things were repairable but after a while I did emotionally detach myself and was glad to be out in the end.
Just before I left it became obvious that he was drinking a lot more than i’d realised. After I left his mental health plummeted, and fuelled by huge volumes of alcohol he managed to trigger a chain of events that almost killed him. After a stay in hospital he returned home,seemed to be doing reasonably well and I have done everything I can to both support him and to start to rebuild his relationships with DCs. Two weeks ago he started to behave a bit “oddly” again and - no suprise - it turns out he's drinking again. A lot. Putting his life in danger levels.
I desperately want him to get treatment for all his issues and be able to have a healthy, consistent, relationship with DCs.... but ultimately I need to look after & protect them, and preserve my own sanity.
So…. At what point does it become appropriate to stop all contact for DCs when alcohol & mental health are concerned? And at what point would you consider re-establishing ?
Was tempted to post in aibu for higher traffic but don't think I'm up to taking some of the likely responses, so please be gentle
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When to stop all contact for young DC's.
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Sameoldnewname · 17/06/2016 22:44
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