Me and my OH split two weeks ago after finding out he was having an affair with not only his work colleague but our next door neighbour. We have a 2 year old and an 8 week old. The affair has been going on since February. Hes been sending her flowers, taking her away to hotels with him whenever he had a work course, staying out all night but he was at her house etc. I moved back to my mum's with our children the day I found out and have since accepted a house for the three of us which we'll move into when it's decorated.
He's been texting me since the Sunday after we split saying how sorry he was, how lost he felt, how he threw his life away etc. He begged for another chance to make it work even saying things like we'll move away to a different country. At first I ignored him, then told him there was no chance but the past few days I've been coming round to us maybe being together in the future if we were able to sort things out. I know I sound naive but I feel so vulnerable just now. Anyway, last night he had a change of heart and doesn't want us back and has became really cold and won't answer my messages. I'm in bits. I've no idea how to move on from this and begin to build my life back up. I feel sick and panicky. If I could up and leave I would but I have my girls and they need me. It feels like no one else in the world feels the way I do just now. My friends were really supportive and still are to be fair but I feel like I can't talk to them anymore. My mum doesn't understand why I'm even upset in the first place. I just feel like there's a massive brick wall in front of me and I'll never be able to move on from him. I've been with him since I was 18, he's all I know. I moved out my parents house and in with him and now I have to start over on my own. I really miss him
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exOH has been having an affair. Finding it difficult to cope
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Theseatheskytheseatheskyyyy · 17/06/2016 21:31
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