Backstory is I've been with a wonderful man for two years, he's been like an antidote to the abusive losers I've been with in the past including an EA marriage in which XH cheated many times. Part of what I love about him is that he's on board with my feminist views and doesn't watch porn (after seeing a documentary about the other side to it a few years ago), is very respectful of women etc.
Out of curiosity (I'm working on a photo project) I googled myself to see what images are available of me in the public domain, and then did the same for BF. What came up was his MySpace account which he's told me he's got before but as I've never used it, I don't really understand what it is or how it works.
It seems he's 'connected' to dozens and dozens of profiles of women connected to the porn and glamour modelling industry. I'm genuinely shocked! I know this isn't cheating and his account was set up when he was much younger but it's really changed how I feel about him. It puts into question all the things we've discussed about feminism and women being objectified etc. He's knows my views, we've had many discussions about this and he always agrees with me!
I know I shouldn't have looked, I do trust him so wasn't looking for evidence of anything and this is all in the public domain. I'm not sure what to do with this information now but I am disgusted and embarrassed for him. I don't even know if I should say anything but also don't know if I can hide my feelings as he'll know something is up. WWYD?
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I shouldn't have looked
CrossHatched · 17/06/2016 13:20
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