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Should I keep cards etc. from wedding when marriage is over?

(14 Posts)
ToThineOwnSelf Thu 16-Jun-16 11:06:57

I have a large box of cards etc. from my wedding a few years ago which is over and I am divorced, following my ex's conviction for assault to me. I can't work out what to do with them - chuck the whole lot? Keep some of them? Send the ones from my ex's friends and family back to him? TIA

FeckinCrutches Thu 16-Jun-16 11:10:26

What do you want to do with them?

ToThineOwnSelf Thu 16-Jun-16 11:16:38

Not sure, it feels bad to just chuck them all, but I guess no reason to ever look back at them. It's come up as I am moving house and clearing stuff out.

FeckinCrutches Thu 16-Jun-16 11:25:27

I'd chuck them. No reason to look back on them really. But I'm super un sentimental.

ToThineOwnSelf Thu 16-Jun-16 11:27:04

Think you're right, thanks!

crje Thu 16-Jun-16 11:27:31

I chucked mine and I'm still married!
I'm not sentimental either.

RedMapleLeaf Thu 16-Jun-16 11:31:38

I think it sounds as though you want permission to get rid of them. I'd take a moment to recognise that they were sent in good faith from lots of people who cared enough to think about it at the time.

Then let them go.

EarthboundMisfit Thu 16-Jun-16 11:33:03

I chucked mine and I'm still married! I'm ruthless. I did keep them for 8 years.

Dozer Thu 16-Jun-16 11:35:06

I plan to chuck ours if storage space requires, except a few sentimental ones, eg from parents or deceased relatives.

Or might let DD loose with glue and scissors, she's a budding maker and stylist and could no doubt have lots of fun with them.

DH won't be happy, he's a nostalgic hoarder, hence why can only do it if space needed!

TheNaze73 Thu 16-Jun-16 11:36:28

There is no hard & fast rule here. Personally, I'd bin them but, you do whatever the hell you like with them OP

redexpat Thu 16-Jun-16 11:45:57

Apply Kondo - hold each one and ask yourself does this spark joy? If yes keep, if not bin.

fuzzywuzzy Thu 16-Jun-16 11:48:06

I had trouble cucking stuff out following my divorce from an abusive marriage.

My younger sister came around and de-cluttered she was ruthless, and actually it felt good afterwards, I was grateful to have the responsibility removed from me I just didn't want to do it in case it was wrong. She re-did photo albums, so they now have me and my DC and we still have old photos but none of ex as I don't actually want pictures or mementos of him.

ToThineOwnSelf Thu 16-Jun-16 14:00:13

Thanks for all the replies, I am going to chuck them.

mangosandlime Thu 16-Jun-16 17:15:30

I do t have mine or anything else really bar my wedding ring which was my nans so don't want to get rid of that . Sad that it's no longer got happy memories

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