I met a guy Friday for a quick coffee in his lunch break, 40 minutes max. Very attractive, cool, bit flash for me. He sat next to me and put his arm around me. When he left, he adjusted himself and said he had a semi . He whispered he was an amazing lover.
He messaged me all day long, excited and friendly, and asked when we could meet again. I suggested Wednesday. He said he works weekday evenings but could be with me at 10.30pm. He would need a shower at my place and would bring his toiletries and body brush as he likes smooth skin . Note: at no stage had I invited him to mine. I thought we could go for a drink and see how we get on and I would get a babysitter for the dc.
The next morning I messaged him to say, thanks anyway but this won't work for me so we'll leave it. He messaged and called all day long. I didn't know as my phone had died until the evening when I charged it and all these messages came through eg I will not let you go that easily baby, I'm a nice guy, we have to make an effort. His last message was, I want sex with you.
The last guy I met was exactly the same. One date, over keen, I called it off and he said, please can I do it to you just once.
I just read the shagged on a first date thread. What happens if you shag a man like this straight away? Surely it's a risk. Do they disappear never to be seen again as they have got what they want or can you never get rid of them? Knowing my luck, they would turn into a stalker and know my address. I'd only met this guy for 40 minutes and he was acting like we had fallen madly in love. I almost feel guilty that I have let him down yet I don't even know him.
Is this typical? Should I be playing it differently? Can you weed these guys out earlier ie before you even meet? It is so off-putting.
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Is this typical of online dating?
Decadeinthesun · 15/06/2016 22:43
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