My hubby keeps telling me to 'stop fighting' all the time. What he means with fighting seems to be when I comment on something such as "isn't it son's bedtime/dinnertime?" or whatever, which he probably hears as criticism, even when I meant it as a normal bit of communication, which he could reply with something sensible such as "Oh yes it is, silly me, I forgot what time it was!". Instead he starts shouting at me to stop fighting! This is followed by demands to do this or that (shut up, sit down etc) and if I'm not doing it he loses his temper completely. I find it almost impossible to say anything to him because of this. He sees this as completely my problem, we've had this for years and I'm still "fighting" and I'm not learning anything etc. We've had couples counselling/therapy and it seemed to help but he's stressed again and shouting at me a lot more (at least once a week). I don't think I'm especially demanding/critical and this happens even when i'm in a good friendly mood... we do have age difference and cultural difference, i wonder if that's the problem but we've been together for over 15 years now, you would think he knew me by now.
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