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Assault?

27 replies

MayaMaya · 12/06/2016 21:12

Is it assault if a husband spanks a wife? It happened during a disagreement. Not sure how to feel, other than embarrassed.

(Not much detail as I'm to sure what to say tbh.)

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MayaMaya · 12/06/2016 21:19

And, no, this isn't a joke, I didn't know where else to ask.

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LumpySpacedPrincess · 12/06/2016 21:21

If someone hits you, it's assault.

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ILoveAGoodBrusselSprout · 12/06/2016 21:23

I don't understand.

Was he trying to be 'playful' or was he punishing you, hitting you in anger?

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averylongtimeago · 12/06/2016 21:29

It's assault, even if you call it spanking.

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MayaMaya · 12/06/2016 21:29

In anger. It's just sounds so silly though, getting spanked. Doesn't seem as though it would count.

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Fairenuff · 12/06/2016 21:36

Yes it's assault.

Use the word 'hit' instead of 'spanked' and try your question again - 'Is it assault if a husband hits a wife? It happened during a disagreement.'

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averylongtimeago · 12/06/2016 21:36

It's not silly. If he punched you it wouldn't be silly, this is the same. Where is he now, are you safe?

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LadyStarkOfWinterfell · 12/06/2016 21:38

He hit you. Where he hit you isn't really relevant. Of course it's assault.

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Chchchchangeabout · 12/06/2016 21:42

Why would it not be assault?

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RunRabbitRunRabbit · 12/06/2016 21:46

Yes, of course, how could it not be?

I assume you are not in a relationship where this type of thing is allowed by prior agreement.

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MayaMaya · 12/06/2016 21:49

No agreement. (that sort of thing isn't my cup of tea)

That's made it clearer fairenuff, thankyou.

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WellErrr · 12/06/2016 21:50

You weren't spanked. You were hit. And yes, it is assault.

What happened? Are you ok?

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MayaMaya · 12/06/2016 22:02

I'm ok, my bum is just a bit sore and bruised.
It happened last night and this morning. Still not sure exactly how it got to that, it was just a silly argument.

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LadyStarkOfWinterfell · 12/06/2016 22:03

He did it again this morning? Sweetheart he's abusing you. What are you planning to do? Has he hit or 'punished' you before?

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MayaMaya · 12/06/2016 22:23

I was still upset about last night so brought it up this morning, and well yeah, he did it again.
Everything is fine now, i just wanted to know if I was justified thinking it was assault. It's happened in the past but not for a while, I was just shocked it happened again. I'm not planning to do anything really.

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MayaMaya · 12/06/2016 22:24

(I will try talking to him, but not leave or anything like that.)

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jayho · 12/06/2016 23:12

Ash, well that's fine then, let him hit you when he feels like you deserve it

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jayho · 12/06/2016 23:13

Aah

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ImperialBlether · 12/06/2016 23:14

If he hit you just as hard on your face, would you leave then?

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WellErrr · 12/06/2016 23:18

Helpful jayho Hmm

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jayho · 12/06/2016 23:28

She's minimising well, needs a wake-up call, that's all

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Willow2016 · 13/06/2016 00:31

WHy did you ask if you arent planning on doing anything about it?

He is hitting you, you can call it a slap or a hit or whatever you like but its assault/abuse, and you are letting him do it whenever it suits him just because you disagreead about something?

You are sore and have a bruise what else can it be?

Big flashing red light.... do something about it now or next time it could be your face thats sore and bruised or you could be explaining to a&e staff how you 'walked into a door, ha ha, no really I did, silly me'

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DailyMailGOFuckOff · 13/06/2016 00:39

It's incredibly degrading OP, it wasn't playful and sexual and you are not a child. Your an equal - or should be, in his eyes.

What's next?

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goddessofsmallthings · 13/06/2016 02:55

It happened last night and this morning
I'm not planning to do anything really^

As you haven't reported your h to the police for physically assaulting causing bruising and soreness to your posterior, you've given him carte blanche to do it again.

Be aware that if he "spanked" you on your bare bum and you had sex with him after he hit you, you're giving him opportunity to claim that this "sort of thing" is, indeed, your "cup of tea".

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MoggieMaeEverso · 13/06/2016 03:39

Just curious why you are not planning on staying with him?

Would you report him to the police if he'd hit you in the face? The arm? Where is your line?

Spanking without consent is incredibly humiliating and offensive. But you have nothing to feel embarrassed about, what happened is not your fault.

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