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If he says doesn't want a means he doesn't want a relationship!

(11 Posts)
wearymum73 Sun 12-Jun-16 12:09:04

Not sure what I want to say really, but thanks to mn I finished with a guy I was seeing last night as I saw a massive red flag. I have been in ea relationships before, and I never knew the signs.
But thanks to mn I have walked away before I got more involved.
I have seen on here 'if he doesn't want a means he doesn't want a relationship' I thought his 'l'm not sure if he wanted a relationship' meant he could want one...nope it means the same thing!
So feeling a little bit blue...but pleased that I have walked away from a potential train wreak!

ButIbeingpoor Sun 12-Jun-16 13:08:57

Good on you!
He'll probably regret his honesty but at least you are not wasting yourself on a bloke who isn't engaging at the same emotional depth as you.

Sassypants82 Sun 12-Jun-16 14:12:47

Good job! Now you're free to meet somebody worthy of your time & attention. Chin up lady x

DaleMaily Sun 12-Jun-16 14:17:11

It's harder than you think, well done.

wearymum73 Sun 12-Jun-16 14:27:27

You are so right dale it is really difficult to walk away when you have decided to open up to someone...I had been single for 6 this was a huge leap for me to start dating again!

mumofthemonsters808 Sun 12-Jun-16 14:36:51

Great decision Weary, I take my hat off to you. In my experience, this statement means he does not want a relationship with you.If only this penny would have dropped with my younger self, then I would have saved myself lots of heartache and not been taken the piss out off.You've done the right thing.

PurpleHairBigKnickers Sun 12-Jun-16 14:39:02

Wearymum - it actually feels good doesn't it. I've just walked away from a 3 month thing. He won't commit and I am refusing to be the casual thing he wants. Have cried it out and today holding my head up high and cleaning my house. Life is to short x

TheStoic Sun 12-Jun-16 15:44:14

'I'm not sure I want a relationship' means 'I don't want a relationship...with you.'

Good on you, OP. Onwards and upwards. smile

SoThatHappened Sun 12-Jun-16 16:17:58

Good for you....

But to qualify it means they don't want a relationship with you.

Halfwayoranges Sun 12-Jun-16 16:34:54

Good for you! Don't waste your time on someone like that. X

forumdonkey Sun 12-Jun-16 16:53:50

Remember while you're dating Mr Wrong, you'll not find Mr Right. You're better than being someones down time. Good for you.

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