Bit of a personal question but have to ask!
My partner and i are both self employed, my partner earns approx 4 - 6 x more than me per week. We have alot of outgoings. Partner insists that all the bills ie rent, loans and CC should all be paid equally every month down the middle, i am really struggling to pay this amount every month. Being self employed i make enough money to cover my materials each month and have around £100 per week as earnings. Being self employed is good for me as it fits around the kids and i can do it from home. Its getting busier all the time and still has loads of potential. Partner earns alot more from me and has alot of spends which he invests back into his business if he wishes. We have fairly large outgoings each month with rent, the car and a couple of small loans/cc. He insists that everything is split down the middle and i have to pay 50/50 which is crippling me, i have to take money out my business, money i need for materials for orders i have taken, or go over drawn on my account. I just about get straight then its all due again. I have explained but he doesnt listen and says thats the way it is and its unfair if he pays more!! i lent £400 off him last month for materials (again had the money but had bills to pay) and he constantly really on my case for it back. Its really stressing me out. The it was both my daughter and sons birthday and had to pay another half toward presents (one being a laptop) and the rest of the presents i bought out my own money. He's gone really tight recently, always got money for things he needs. Hes just gone into business with someone else now too so will be earning more . Just really fed up, been together 14 years and have 4 kids, we dont really have much in common anymore, he hates my hobby (my horses) he likes to drink (i dont drink!) and he says i have changed too. I dont like his friends and we hardly spend time together anymore. I think something needs to change as we are drifting apart. He has alot of friends where we live and i have one friend who is also horsey but thats it. I work alone whilst he has 2 employees who are the same age and he gets on with really well. His dad lives very local, my family and other friends live 90 miles away!
Today i am sat in with the kids, he is out with his friend discussing business matters (setting up new business) probably in a pub somewhere eating out etc i just dont want this anymore. The prospect of leaving him is exciting as well as daunting. I am 35 this year and want to make a break and have a change. I think i would be better off financially on my own.
Just needed to vent!
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Is this fair?
Justmusing · 11/06/2016 14:46
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