Hey. I'd appreciate some quick advice. I've tried calling Women's Aid but got answer phone.
Long story short emotionally and financially (gambling) abusive husband of 8 years, together 15. He suffers depression.
Over last year he's become increasingly hostile and monosymbolic/mute. Evil stares, I think he hates me.
After returning from tortuous holiday last week with our 3DCs I asked him if he even liked me anymore. He wasn't able to answer that one. I'm calm, people pleaser, solution finder by nature etc. Long talk resulted in all problems lying with me, and he won't change (although he did download a Mindfulness app.)
There's a lot of secrecy, shutting down web pages when I come in to the room etc. He's changed the security code on his phone. History of affair 7 years ago. This afternoon look at joint account online, he's withdrawn £100 cash for gambling. I text to say things have changed, and I can't live like this anymore, that I'm devastated, shaking and heart pounding.
He texts back to say I should leave. I packed the bags (travel case currently under the bed) but he appeared at the door 15 minutes later, with evil evil stare. Then he goes and sits in the garden. He's still there now. I don't want a scene in front of my 3DCs. He's a ranter and gets very angry/defensive easily (realising a narcissistic personality). He's not violent.
Should I leave with children tomorrow when he's at work (his first love) and go to my DSis 2 hours drive away? Take all legal documents in the legal folder? Or hold my ground in our house.
I'm taking eldest child to Brownie camp now, trying to keep things normal for them. Pick up on Sunday.
Feeling so tired. Drained. Nauseous.
Thank you for any advice 💐
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backinyerbox · 10/06/2016 18:07
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