5 years ago I was in a short relationship with a man, it only lasted around 2 months but in that time I fell pregnant. When I told him he said 2 my face that he'd be there for me but after that conversation I never heard from him again. He cut off all contact and wasn't at the scans or birth. Soon after I had my daughter I received a solicitors letter in the post saying along the lines of that I need to stop telling people that this man is my baby's father and more or less that I'm blackining his name. When my daughter was 8 months I met someone else, he's been in my daughters life since then he treats her like his own, he is the only father figure my daughter knows although she knows he's not her real dad. Anyway my daughter is 4 now and we were in town one day when I saw her real father. He stared at my daughter (who is the spitting image of him) but didn't speak 2 us. About a week later I got a private message on Facebook from him saying he's sorry for doubting me and he wants 2 be part of my daughters life now. I ignored the message and then I got another solicitors letter saying he's taking me 2 court 2 see his daughter. I don't want my daughter having anything 2 do with him, he can't just walk in 2 her life 4 years later he is a stranger 2 her! I know a part of how I'm feeling is resentment cos of how he treated me but I think I have a right to feel like that. Now I don't know what I'm gonna do If I don't let him be part of her life she might resent me for it when she's older. Would he win if this did go 2 court??
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